"A waiting person is a patient person." - Henri J.M. Nouwen

Argh! Have you ever felt impatient at a red light, or irritated at the end of a long line for your prescription at the pharmacy? You're not alone.

Patience can feel scarce when you don't have control over a situation. It can feel like HIV interrupted your life and brought a slew of frustrations at the worst moments. Finding a tiny bit of control can bring us patience later.

Control might look like self-care: a walk around the block, getting up early for 15 minutes of alone time, spending time each week encouraging others who have HIV or starting a gratitude journal. Don't let anyone (including yourself!) make you feel guilty for taking care of yourself.

Here are recent conversations from myHIVteam:

• "Things don't always work out the way I intend them to, but I'm learning to pivot. Not always happy when I have to do so, but I'm learning to be more flexible."
• "Forgive because we, too, need forgiveness. Be patient with yourself and others without allowing yourself to be taken advantage of."
• "Time will tell where this goes. Have to remember to take my time. I lead with my heart and do not want to rush it."

Have you found ways to take back control and practice patience? What do you do to be more open to self-care? Share your insights in the comments below or directly on myHIVteam.com.