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What is one specific 'mean' thing your inner voice says that you’re working on replacing with something kinder?

A myHIVteam Member asked a question 💭
Edmore, MI

We are often our own toughest critics. If you met a stranger who treated you exactly the way you treat yourself in your own head, would you want to be their friend?

May 2
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A myHIVteam Member

Yes. I always treat well friends, and I really like to be treated on the same way.

May 2
A myHIVteam Member

I sometimes blame myself for contacting HIV but to be honest, I love having this virus. Because it opened my eyes to what life is all about and to treat it with respect and kindness.

May 3
myHIVteam

How can you replace negative self-talk and silence your inner critic when living with HIV?

Living with HIV can stir up a lot of harsh internal dialogue — shame, blame, and self-doubt can creep in, especially around stigma or difficult days. The good news is that self-compassion is a skill that can genuinely be practiced Show Full Answer

How can you replace negative self-talk and silence your inner critic when living with HIV?

Living with HIV can stir up a lot of harsh internal dialogue — shame, blame, and self-doubt can creep in, especially around stigma or difficult days. The good news is that self-compassion is a skill that can genuinely be practiced and built over time.

Here are some ways to start replacing mean thoughts with kinder ones:

- Notice the critic — Simply recognizing when your inner voice is being unkind is the first and most powerful step
- Challenge the thought — Ask yourself, "Would I say this to a friend in my situation?" If not, reframe it
- Replace fear with curiosity — Instead of spiraling into worst-case thinking, try asking "What do I actually know right now?"
- Celebrate small wins — Taking your medication, showing up to an appointment, getting out of bed on a hard day — these all count
- Lean on others who get it — Connecting with people who truly understand life with HIV can offer perspective and validation that quiets the inner critic A myHIVteam member put it beautifully: *"Going through suffering helps me grow in self-acceptance, compassion, and understanding — to try to love oneself, and to be okay when it's not such a good day."*

Self-kindness isn't just good for your mental health — it can actually strengthen your relationship with your care team and keep you motivated to stay on top of your HIV treatment. You deserve the same compassion you'd offer anyone else. 💙

May 2

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