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A New Relationship?

A myHIVteam Member asked a question 💭
Vallejo, CA

A strange thing happened to me today. My friend who just got married last year give me a phone number of this guy who dropped me off from Crockett to Vallejo. During the time he was married. But now he's not. He want to start a friendship with me (which I don't mind). But now I'm kind of paranoid if he knows that I have HIV. I wonder if it could be a happy ending for someone with HIV to a person who isn't. This HIV shit is still new to me.

March 20, 2019
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A myHIVteam Member

The only answer is to have a meeting sit down and discuss it discuss the fact that if you're on meds you're undetectable you're as normal as he is long as you take your meds and you are undetectable you cannot spread the disease there is a 1% chance which is very small and the risk of passing it again is not a good chance to do it it's a chance that we will never happen it's been documented and all the studies that a person who is undetectable and having regular sex does not transmit the disease need if nothing else make an appointment but the doctor have them discuss that with you and him together and then he can make his own decision that's all you can do and hopefully the answer is you won't have a relationship and you'll be happy

March 20, 2019
A myHIVteam Member

Personally nothing ventured nothing gained and you can never have to many friends. My friend got with me and we spent the best 4+ months of my life together before he passed away with cancer. I would not trade that time for anything. I look forward to finding another great friendship and see where it goes. My 2 cents from the depths of my heart.

March 20, 2019
A myHIVteam Member

I'm the same be honest and straightforward but kind too when it comes to that point if you feel comfortable about and he is trustworthy i have been in three relationships in my life and everyone know and they accept me for me as a whole

April 8, 2019
A myHIVteam Member

Just ask. Do not assume anything. If he looking, go ahead and tell him status. Do it in a calm fashion. If you're calm it helps.

I'm the believer that best to get upfront business complete before you go into a relationship... yeah that's me.

March 25, 2019
A myHIVteam Member

In Dr office will was word to have relatiinship

March 20, 2019

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