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Has HIV Stopped You From Dating?

Has HIV Stopped You From Dating?

Unfortunately, I have been rejected several times when I disclosed my HIV status....so, I’ve given up. I no longer wanted to be rejected and after a couple of times, I began to feel unwanted.
It’s been 8...9 years since I’ve been with anyone. I’ve simply stopped dating.
Has anyone else felt the same way? Has HIV stopped you from even trying to date?

A myHIVteam Member said:

That also happened for me and I’ve never used drugs in my life and I’ve never drunk in my life I was always a goody goody lady I was always from work home home work and attend to my three children. I was married for 20 years I never knew that someone could hie and addiction so long my ex-husband was a junkie and I didn’t even know it when I started cleaning my house one day I found a couple of things rare in my home so I took it to a friend of mine and what she told me was what was I walking around with cocaine ,door and crack and a syringe used with blood. My best friend told me is your husband a user I said a user of what she said drugs I said no it Hass to be somebody else’s but it was only him and I the only adults in the house and our three children want to make a long story short 16 years in the marriage I found out that he was a serious junkie and I couldn’t believe it so He was the one that got me sick with HIV and also give me hepatitis c. I thought I was going to die I said tomorrow I’m dying what’s going to happen to my kids how am I supposed to explain this to my parents I was so ashamed of myself and still upset today I’m still embarrassed to say that I’m HIV positive and never use drugs and never drank in my life but I guess that’s life I had a lot of rejections when I told the truth so I stopped Talking.. i’ve been having this disease since 2002 and I still feel like if it was yesterday that I caught it I don’t talk about it I don’t even like going to the doctors because I’m so embarrassed of showing my face to the doctor maybe the doctor discriminate me or the people there wondering how did I get it I woman so well dressed spoke very well and carried myself Extremely well so I know the feeling but I think I’m all the way to the extreme I’m just afraid to tell someone that I’m positive for HIV infection anyway you stay safe and stay blessed I just wanted to share this with you thank you

posted 10 months ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

I get rejected, because I have recently gotten back on the dating scene, but I realize, as they say, you may have to kiss 100 frogs until you prince comes along. You are worthy of love, but you must know who you are and you are not the disease ignorant people try to make you think you are. Perception, truth and honesty, has made me realize that they don't deserve me. I reveal my status early, so they can decide and my feelings don't get attached, that hurts more to catch feelings and be rejected.
On a final note Jesus was rejected, but did not stop.

posted almost 2 years ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

Hi my name is Garrett, I'm so sorry that you have been hurt. You seem like a really good person. Don't give up! Keep searching the skies for your star. If I could take away your pain and erase your hurt I would. Some people listen to myths instead of looking for the truth.

posted almost 3 years ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

I know exactly how you feel. It hurts when people reject you. I learned that if anyone will reject you for hiv or herpes or whatever. To me that's a major red flag. To be honest those people are not educated on hiv. Love has no boundaries, love doesn't look at a shell. Love starts at the heart and soul. It has been 9 yrs since I was with someone. Somewhere their is a star for you. Keep your eye open to the midnight sky. Like I had told some. If I could take your pain and hurt I would in a heart beat. Don't give up my friend.

posted almost 3 years ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

To be honest with you, I have been single longer than I have ever been in a relationship so it doesn't really bother me.

posted almost 3 years ago
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