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Telling White Lies

Updated on June 26, 2019

Have you ever told a white lie to be kind, to protect the feelings of others, or maybe to simply avoid stigma? You're not alone.

For some living with a chronic condition, telling a white lie can be a way to save one's strength. Sometimes it's easier not to share your unvarnished truth, especially when it doesn't hurt anyone else.

Have you ever found yourself saying any of the following?

1. "No, no. I can do it myself."
2. "I'm not scared/nervous/anxious/unsure."
3. "I'm fine. Really."
4. "Don't worry. I'm used to this."
5. "No, I'm not in much pain."

Here are some conversations from the community about this topic:

"Why is it when you lie it’s a problem but when the other person that lies it’s ok? Please everyone chime in on this question I really would like to know your input."

"I am carrying a secret that no one knows. I'm tired of hiding."

“My family doesn’t know...and I do not plan on sharing this with them.”

Why do you choose a white lie over sharing your true feelings?
What do you wish you could say instead?

A myHIVteam Member said:

All that said, I should add that I'm NOT one to ask a lot of questions when I'm meeting someone or getting acquainted. Most people will reveal what is… read more

posted about 1 month ago

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