If you’ve ever worried about catching human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) from sharing a drink with someone, you’re not alone. Myths and misunderstandings about how HIV is transmitted are still common, and they can cause unnecessary fear and stigma. Some people wonder if sharing a glass, bottle, or straw could put them at risk.

This article will separate fact from fiction when it comes to HIV transmission — especially around sharing drinks. Understanding what does and doesn’t spread HIV can help you make informed choices, protect yourself and others, and challenge the persistent myths that contribute to stigma. Let’s take a closer look at the real risks and the science behind HIV transmission.

What Is HIV?

HIV is a type of virus known as a retrovirus — it infects certain cells in the immune system. Over time, these cells can no longer do their jobs, and the immune system can’t properly fight off harmful invaders such as bacteria and other viruses. A deficient immune system makes a person more susceptible to diseases, infections, and cancers that they might otherwise be unlikely to develop.

How Does HIV Spread?

HIV spreads when an uninfected person comes into direct contact with certain bodily fluids from someone who is HIV-positive (infected with the virus). These fluids include:

• Vaginal fluids
• Semen
• Preseminal fluid
• Blood
• Breast milk
• Rectal fluid

For HIV to spread, the virus in these fluids has to not only touch or come close to another person but also enter their bloodstream. This transmission can happen through mucous membranes (found in the mouth, rectum, and genitals) or cuts and scrapes, as well as by injection.

HIV can also be transmitted via contact with cerebrospinal, amniotic, or synovial (joint) fluid. However, this type of transmission is uncommon and is most likely to occur in healthcare settings.

What Does Not Spread HIV?

A lot of stigma continues to surround HIV, partly due to common misunderstandings about how the condition can be spread. As one myHIVteam member summed it up: “There is still stigma in every community, city, state, and the whole nation. Disinformation is one of the problems that fuels the stigma.”

Clearing up incorrect ideas about how HIV is transmitted could help reduce the stigma.

As explained above, although mucous membranes are found in the mouth — where saliva is produced — the virus cannot be transmitted through contact with the saliva of someone living with HIV. Although the virus is detectable in saliva, the fluid contains both enzymes and antibodies that prevent the virus from spreading to other cells. So, to be very clear: Can you get HIV from saliva? No, saliva alone can’t spread HIV.

This means that HIV will not be passed to an uninfected person through, say, mouth-to-mouth resuscitation or:

• Most kissing (more on that below)
• Sharing a drink, a plate, or silverware
• Using the same toothbrush
• Being sneezed or coughed on by someone with HIV

Can you get HIV from kissing? In very rare cases, open-mouth kissing and “deep” kissing can transmit HIV. When both partners have bleeding gums, open wounds, or open sores in their mouths, transmission can occur — but not through saliva itself. Instead, blood from one partner’s open wound makes its way into the other partner’s wound, transmitting the virus. However, HIV transmission in this manner seldom occurs.

As with saliva, HIV does not spread through several other body fluids, including urine, tears, feces, and sweat. This means you can’t get HIV by:

• Changing a diaper on a child or adult
• Using the same exercise equipment
• Sharing a toilet seat

• Comforting someone when they are crying

HIV also can’t survive well outside the body. The virus doesn’t live long or reproduce on surfaces or outside of a human host, so it can’t be spread through:

• Hugging or shaking hands
• Closed-mouth kissing
• Touching (including intimate touching)
• Being bitten by insects such as ticks and mosquitoes

In countries with strong health rules and where HIV testing is common, it’s very rare that a person gets HIV from a blood transfusion or while receiving medical care.

Finally, you cannot transmit or catch HIV infections through any sort of casual contact or interaction. This means that the virus can’t be spread in saunas or swimming pools or while giving or getting piercings or tattoos (as long as standard hygiene procedures are followed).

Overall, outside of participating in certain activities, you shouldn’t have to worry about getting HIV or giving it to someone else. Additionally, you can take steps to lower the risk of contracting or transmitting the virus during sexual activities.

Can HIV Be Transmitted Through Sharing Drinks?

As mentioned above, HIV cannot spread through everyday actions like sharing drinks, cups, or utensils. Even though this is a common concern, there is no risk of HIV transmission from sharing beverages or eating with another person. Saliva contains natural substances that prevent the virus from causing infection, so you can feel confident that enjoying a drink with someone living with HIV is completely safe.

How To Reduce Your Chances of Catching or Transmitting HIV

The most common ways people get HIV are by sharing needles used for drugs and by having vaginal or anal sex. If you are concerned about getting or transmitting HIV, you can take a few preventive measures.

Prevent Contracting HIV

If you are HIV-negative, one of the best ways to reduce your risk of contracting the virus is to avoid injection drug use. If you do use intravenous (IV) drugs, you can take harm-reduction measures, such as using clean needles and syringes every time and never sharing needles.

When used correctly, condoms are highly effective at preventing HIV transmission during vaginal or anal sex. In addition, you can make sure any sexual partners recently tested negative for HIV or, if they are HIV-positive, have an undetectable viral load. Even if a person has tested negative or has an undetectable viral load, it’s important to consider using condoms to lower the risk of contracting other sexually transmitted infections (STIs) like chlamydia or gonorrhea.

The very low risk of HIV transmission through oral sex can be further reduced by using a condom or dental dam.

If an intimate partner has been diagnosed with HIV — and especially if their viral load is not undetectable for at least six months straight during treatment — taking PrEP (preexposure prophylaxis) can protect you. These medications help prevent HIV infection even if you are exposed to the virus. If you are not on PrEP, you can take postexposure prophylaxis (PEP) within 72 hours of possible exposure.

Prevent Transmitting HIV

If you have tested positive for HIV, you can help lower your risk of HIV transmission by paying attention to your viral load. This number tells you how much of the virus is present and detectable in your body at any given time. With modern antiretroviral (ART) HIV treatments, most people can get their viral load so low that it is undetectable, usually within three to six months of starting treatment.

The best way to achieve an undetectable viral load is to take your HIV medications exactly as directed. Your healthcare provider can monitor your viral load through blood tests at regular intervals. Talk to your doctor about how frequently you need to be seen, which may vary depending on a number of factors.

If you have an undetectable viral load for at least six consecutive months while taking ART consistently, you won’t transmit the virus during sex. However, people with an undetectable viral load are still advised to consider using condoms to protect against transmitting or contracting other STIs, especially if they have multiple sexual partners. If you are in a monogamous relationship and have an undetectable viral load, you and your partner might consider having sex without condoms — but you should also discuss this possibility with your healthcare provider.

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