Hi everyone. I am new here. Do you guys find it hard to find serious dates online? For me it has been dissappointing especially when people find out you are from Africa where i come from. How are your experiences?
This came up in a discussion earlier for me. We all know what the discrimination or the stigma is of this virus now. But before you was diagnosed, what was your true feeling about HIV/AIDS or people who had it (if you knew of anyone)? How different was your view then compared to now?
When meeting new potential playmates, and they ask if you’re disease free, and you honestly tell them that you’re positive but otherwise healthy, and they hit you with “well then, nothing sexual can ever happen between us, but we can still be friends. It just scares me,” how do you handle that?
It's bn many years since I was diagnosed and I can't forgive the person who gave me this in matter of fact I hate him, but I can't put all the blame in him I should hv made sure he wore that condom. It's bn hard for me to try to fall in love again. I push people away when I feel we r getting too close because most people think just because u r Hiv+ they think u hv AIDS. When I think about the happiness I get depressed again cause I hv to tell them that I'm Hiv+… read more
In many ways, I keep myself safe from getting sick from those around me, by continuing to take the antibiotics to prevent any infection from taking over my immune system. In some ways, I tell them to turn around and go home and many cases I call off my plans for the rest of the day if they happen to show up sick, I will cover for them while they rest and get better. Now… read more
Now that winter is trying to slowly rear it's ugly face into our life and Autumn is upon us (here north of the equator), is your HIV care differently in the winter than in the spring, fall, or summer? Do you have issues making it to your appointments (people living in the northern climates or mountain areas) because of the snow? Are you able to make it to the doctor fine when the weather is bad? How is your care differently (if it is at all) in the winter than… read more
I live in a under-educated part of the country, where if you are honest you are typically shunned. As long as they don't know, all seems to be well. Ignorance is indeed bliss.
I find that at 56 I have become completely comfortable with the man I am and with what I need from a mate. It seems that this clarity coupled with my status creates a very difficult set of circumstances which makes meeting someone both… read more
Used to be in the old days back in the 80's and 90's HIV was one community fighting on the front lines. Watching our friends dying, fighting with the government for the President to just say the word HIV and fund monies for HIV support, and encourage Pharmaceutical companies to begin clinical trials with new meds other than AZT and DDI which was all that was available. In 1996 clinical trials for protease inhibitors… read more
I have asked this question before but it has been awhile, so it is nice to get a refresh on things that may help the newer members.
HIV care can be expensive. It takes money out of our pocket for other things we may need. So when it comes to your HIV care and finances, how do you cope with the burden of paying for everything?
Do you take the help that is out there for rent/mortgage help?
DO you take the help that is out there for food?
Do you take the help that is out there for utilities?
Do you take… read more
Many people feel that if they're practicing safe sex that there's no need to disclose your HIV status to someone that you're with. Say you're not undetectable and the person isn't on Prep and has a weakened immune system from other than a STI. The condom breaks during sex. What would you do?