Is it worse to tell a lie that protects someone’s feelings, or tell a truth that breaks their heart?
Offer your perspective on radical honesty versus gentle deception, where do you usually draw that line?
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Members engaged in a rich discussion about radical honesty versus gentle deception, with most agreeing that truth is generally the better... Read more
Usually when I am interested in someone I try to work my way up to the truth ....
I mean mentioning that I have to take a daily pill isually gives folks a clue but if not then when I can get them to someplace where I do not have to shout and across my lips the words of " I am Poz and stayed with my late husband 32 years and he never sero-converted ( caught it ( if they question the term sero-convert )) .
Then once the initial shock wears off the ball is in their court if they stay or use some excuse to " get the hell away from me " ....
Honesty - period
I’d rather be hurt for 5 minutes than feel betrayed when I find out later the truth
You ask me a question be ready for the answer - cause you may not like it and that’s on you not me …
As for myself I would rather tell someone the truth but when telling the truth tact and diplomacy is always needed because it's not always what you say , but how you say it. But behind the truth also offer some encouragement as to not open up their insecurities. Especially when dealing with the heart .
Considering how sad and unpleasant the discrimination is after a positive test result, we must not lie or ignore our illness, even if we are left alone and isolated.
Considerando lo triste y desagradable por la discriminación ante el resultado positivo,no hay que mentir ni ignorar nuestra enfermedad.si bien quedamos solos y aislados
Personally, I consider myself brutally honest, I rarely lie to preserve someone's feelings, and I do contemplate how it may hurt someone's feelings but I rarely worry about it!