I think it’s easier to show grace to others because we’re not carrying their history, their guilt, or their inner dialogue. We see a moment in them, but we live inside a running story about ourselves that includes every mistake we’ve ever made.

With other people, we can separate who they are from what they’ve done. With ourselves, we tend to merge the two. We don’t just remember what we did, we turn it into who we are.

So grace comes easier for others, because we see their humanity. It’s harder for ourselves, because we’re constantly confronting our own imperfections without distance.

It might sound strange but I don’t fear my HIV and I don’t talk to anyone of my HIV and it has been thrown in my face so I deal on my own as long as my numbers are great there is no need to speak of my HiV but to my Drs so no Stigma for me 🙏🏼

What a marvelous question. Along that line I suspect a lot of stigma is fueled by our own fear of the virus inside us.

Xavier great question
I had to ponder this one.
When I was diagnosed it did a shift in my psyche.I was very hard on myself.I had the attitude that I had to prove my worth to the world.Always pushing myself to be beautifuler ( yeah I have hiv,but look at me),smarter,kinder,the ability to suffer( stoic),never complaining.Im super woman I can do it All,I don't need any help or sympathy. So I wore the mask for years until God intervened and humbled me real quick .I was diagnosed with pneumonia and had to ask for help and help showed up .This was many moons ago.Now I'm balanced and trust others so I won't burn out.People that need people are the luckiest people in the world.
Always healing
Thanks Xavier