First get on your meds ..get healthy than plan your exit.

I am so sorry you are going through this. It is incredibly heavy to witness someone you admire—especially an advocate—be treated with the very discrimination they fight against. It’s natural to feel scared and shocked; it feels like a personal attack on your own safety and future.

Please know that your feelings are valid, but your life and your dreams of a family and a new home are not over. Let’s look at the facts and separate the fear from the reality.

Marriage and Civil Registration in Indonesia
It is true that many regions and religious offices (KUA) in Indonesia have implemented "premarital screenings." However, it is important to understand the nuance:

The Intent vs. The Reality: While some local regulations (like in Bogor or parts of Java) suggest mandatory testing, the national health guidelines often frame this as Health Counseling.

You Can Still Marry: Testing positive for HIV is not a legal barrier to marriage in Indonesia. The goal of the test is officially to ensure both partners are aware of their status so they can start treatment (ART) and prevent transmission.

U=U (Undetectable = Untransmittable): If you are on treatment and your viral load is undetectable, you cannot pass the virus to a partner. Many people living with HIV have healthy, "serodiscordant" (one positive, one negative) marriages and have children who are HIV-negative.

Moving to a Nordic Country
Your "body condition" is not a broken machine; it is a body managing a chronic condition, much like diabetes.

No Bans: Most Nordic countries (Sweden, Norway, Denmark, Finland, Iceland) do not have entry or residency bans for people living with HIV.

Sweden & Norway: These countries are among the most progressive in the world. They do not deny work or residency visas based on HIV status. In fact, Sweden provides HIV care and medication to residents (and even asylum seekers) because they view it as a public health priority.

Health as a Right: In the Nordics, HIV is treated as a manageable health issue. You would not be "rejected" for being HIV-positive; you would likely be linked to some of the best medical care in the world.

A Note on the Future
The discrimination you saw on social media is a reflection of the creator's audience's ignorance, not a reflection of your worth or your future.

Community: You don't have to face this alone. There are many groups in Indonesia (and globally) specifically for people living with HIV who are navigating dating and marriage.

Privacy: You have the right to choose who you share your status with and when.

Thanks a lot mr luis

Thanks a lot for the information sir nola. It made me feel better