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A myHIVteam Member asked a question 💭
Sacramento Area, CA

My kids mom also has it but I still get blamed for it even though I wasn't sleeping with anyone else but she was caught on numerous times I found out she slept with at 50 guys I know about

January 25
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How can you cope with being blamed for HIV transmission when you believe you weren't the source?

It's incredibly painful to be blamed for something you didn't do, especially when it involves HIV. The stigma and blame surrounding HIV can be emotionally devastating, adding to an already difficult situation.

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How can you cope with being blamed for HIV transmission when you believe you weren't the source?

It's incredibly painful to be blamed for something you didn't do, especially when it involves HIV. The stigma and blame surrounding HIV can be emotionally devastating, adding to an already difficult situation.

Unfortunately, determining who transmitted HIV in a relationship can be complex and often impossible to prove definitively. What matters most now is focusing on your own health and well-being rather than getting caught up in blame.

Here are some ways to cope:

- Focus on your treatment and staying healthy - taking your HIV medications consistently is crucial
- Consider talking to a therapist who specializes in HIV to process these feelings
- Connect with others who understand what you're going through
- Practice self-compassion - you deserve dignity and respect regardless of how you contracted HIV
- Set boundaries with people who blame you unfairly

Many people living with HIV have experienced similar feelings of being unfairly judged or blamed. One person shared that HIV taught them "self-love, self-acceptance, and accountability" despite the stigma. Another emphasized that "our chronic illnesses make our light shine through every shade of darkness."

You're dealing with both a health condition and relationship conflict. Taking care of your mental health is just as important as your physical health right now.

January 25
A myHIVteam Member

@A myHIVteam Member
what's the question?

February 1
A myHIVteam Member

So what is your question? Your post is more of a statement.

January 31
A myHIVteam Member

Welcome 😃

January 26

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