I understand that wholeheartedly peter. I myself am very independent and do not want anyone taking care of me even though I do have a large family and a partner. I am looking into a memory long-term care facility in my area because I do have memory loss at this time. Before everything fails I just want to make sure I have my I's dotted n my T's crossed. Much love my friend. Stay strong.

My parents have been gone a long time, 1994 and 1998. What little fanilly I do have left, do not know of my diagnoses. We never connect much anyway. (Nieces and Nephews) But I do love my connection with all of you!!!!

My parents had a very rough year, last year. I'll preface by saying they are very well now. Dad is 82, mom will soon be 75 and currently very healthy.
2022: Mom fell ill (non-covid) in April and was to the point of being immobile. We had many doctor appts, hospital stays and plain worry with her. She bouced back around September and is about 95% to where she was prior to April. Dad endured 2 surgeries during mom's sickness. One in May and second in July.
I am their Healthcare PoA. My 2 brothers were very instrumental in their Care. As they rarely took initiative, they took direction very well. And that was perfectly fine. I could not have juggled my office and my parents care without them and their wives and Michael!

My parents have been dead for many years, long before my HIV diagnosis. I miss them still, but I’m also glad I would not have to tell them about my diagnosis. Also, it is a relief to know that unlike so many others my age I won’t have to do caregiving in my 50’s or 60’s. That was hard enough to deal with when I was in my 30’s.

It’s hard because in my situation, my parents are my greatest allies and support. I have to take each day and tell my self im doing all i can and thats all i can do. Tomorrow is never promised so cherish all the time that you have in the in your memories are your greatest treasure.