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Members shared deeply personal approaches to disclosing their HIV status when dating, with timing varying widely from the first date to... Read more

Members shared deeply personal approaches to disclosing their HIV status when dating, with timing varying widely from the first date to waiting a week or two until trust is established, and some choosing not to date at all due to fear of rejection or judgment. Several members emphasized the importance of gauging a potential partner's character first, protecting themselves in small communities where privacy is limited, and using hypothetical questions to test how educated and compassionate someone might be about HIV before sharing their status. A recurring theme was the emotional weight of disclosure, balancing honesty and vulnerability with self-protection, and finding strength in the fact that anyone who cannot accept their status is not worth their time.