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Kitchener, ON

Having a partner who is HIV- seems to have some frustrations at times. I find there are times where I can get quite frustrated because above all else, I just need someone who understands. So I will leave the question open... Would you date someone who is HIV-? If so, have you ever had frustrations or struggles with the fact that you are HIV+ and they are HIV-?

April 11, 2018
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Members shared personal experiences on the question of dating someone who is HIV-negative while being HIV-positive, with many expressing that... Read more

Members shared personal experiences on the question of dating someone who is HIV-negative while being HIV-positive, with many expressing that serodiscordant relationships can absolutely work with trust, education, and open communication. Several members described supportive partners and spouses who embraced the relationship fully, while others shared painful moments like blame, rejection, or feeling misunderstood. A recurring theme was the emotional weight of living with HIV, including isolation, insecurity, and depression, balanced by a strong community desire for connection and mutual support.

A myHIVteam Member

@A myHIVteam Member: I feel your pain... I spend a lot of time in the trailer shown in my profile pic, in the bush, in the middle of nowhere, with literally no neighbours. I find that it has both up sides and down sides. The internet may be hellishly expensive to be able to get a fast enough speed to stream movies off of the internet, but at times, being in the middle of nowhere can really have some advantages. That being said though, such an isolation for too long of a period of time can result in cabin fever, so I really feel for you.

April 12, 2018
A myHIVteam Member

My partner was HIV- and I have been undetectable for over 5 years but I was still very careful . He passed with cancer 7/16/2016 . I have been trying to meet new people, but I live in the country and it is difficult. I am 63 and I am not sure if I can find someonea week . I'm insecure, as I am sure many of us are. I deal with depression daily and with my knees being bad. I was walking at least 3 times a week, and it helped me quite a bit. Now that is not an option and just sitting home alone is not helping . I'm open to any suggestions so look forward to hearing.

April 12, 2018
A myHIVteam Member

Yes I have lived here for more than 18 years and now alone it's getting a little bit more confining. I was okay until I have difficulty with my knees. I love walking in the woods along the river. I still take my dog Trace, my service dog for several walks at least if I fall he will go for help, gladly it has only happened once. Still good to have the security. Hope your life is full and you are happy.

April 12, 2018
A myHIVteam Member

Yes, I would date someone who has HIV, because maybe we can help each other like a buddy system, plus maybe they know something that could help me

April 11, 2018
A myHIVteam Member

I've been there TC. I ended up losing interest in the guy cuz it was always topic of discussion. Then he decided that my status was too much for him to handle and then he dumped me. It hurt, but I found the strength to move on and date again.

August 20, 2018 (edited)

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