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How Long Did You Wait To Tell Your Family And Friends About Your Diagnosis?
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I've been wondering how and when to tell my older brother that I'm HIV+. If things go south, he's gonna be the one that I lean on, that I ask for help. I know for a fact that I'm not going to tell him until after Christmas is over. And honestly, between him and my younger sister, my older brother is least likely to tell this to anyone else.

So, how long after your diagnosis did you wait before you told your family (brothers, sisters, mom, dad) and friends? What was their reactions like?

posted November 10, 2017
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A myHIVteam Member

Immediately after I found out. My parents made me promise to let them know. Very few others know. Unless there is need, I shan't tell anyone else.

posted November 12, 2017
A myHIVteam Member

I disclosed my status as soon as I found out. Most of my family are on a need to know basis. The ones that do know are my support. We usually don't even talk about it unless I'm going to the doctors and my mom ask, which one. Other than that it's not mentioned. I'm guessing because I have never had complications. I which I really thank God for.

posted December 5, 2019
A myHIVteam Member

I told my family the day I found out because we have always been a close family and through their support they all got all the information they could at the time and then supported me through the illness I was having at the time and then when I joined a research program and started treatment they were there to help me through all the side effects I had when first started while my girlfriend was at work. Didn't tell friends for about a week or so after diagnosis

posted March 17, 2019
A myHIVteam Member

I have never told my mother or other siblings. They are very religious right (Jehovah's Witness) which that is what I was raised as. It did fuck up my mind quiet a bit. I just had to be me and basically said, if you don't like it, get out. They will never know that I am positive. I just don't want to hear the bible crap that they love to hit people over the head with.

posted November 13, 2018
A myHIVteam Member

I told my granny and cousins the first time I had to start taking meds and they just laughed at me, till today they think I was joking. Three of my friends know but as for my siblings they don't know, I don't have the courage to tell them since the people I live with don't take me serious because of my lifestyle they say.

posted June 1, 2018

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