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This Is For The Heterosexual People.

This Is For The Heterosexual People.

Most of HIV deals with gay men. Straight people with HIV probably feel left out with support, help, or somebody to talk to. My question for straight people is, how do you address things when people talk about HIV and how it's a gay disease, and how gays deserve it for being deviants. Or how do you address when people say, "it will never happen to me, I live a moral lifestyle."

posted November 7, 2017
A myHIVteam Member

@A myHIVteam Member for me not get in a "social media" argument with anyone, I'm going to give my "black educated straight HIV positive woman's" point of view based on what I've experienced. You did originally want to know how we straight ppl deal with the stigma right? I can't answer for a gay person because I'm not gay. Everyone should know that HIV/AIDS does NOT discriminate. It sees no age, color, gender, wealth nor sexual status. people on the outside looking in always have the same mind-set.If you are positive straight and a woman, you contracted the disease because you were once smoked crack and was giving a turn with anyone who wanted. And you probably have a thousand kids that you left addicted and positive in a trash bag. Someone telling you that is hard and hurtful to deal with but I deal with it. I'm none of those things. My uncle who died from AIDS in 2006, brutally raped me from the age of 9 til I turned 17. The boyfriend I dated in high school and college was sleeping with me and other men. I dated to other guys in college, one in which is my husband My strain came from my uncle.Ive never been out there sleeping with other ppl spreading the disease. I've only had sex with my husband .I had my daughter 2 yrs before I was diagnosed. She is 24 now and disease free. So you see I'm none of the those things that ignorant ppl think that am but they still have the same notion about me. I've havent been thru what a gay person has and vice versa. The person who angrily answered should realize that we don't share the same circumstances but we do share the same disease.

posted November 8, 2017
A myHIVteam Member

Well in all honesty I have found no problem what so ever conversing with any one once we get past the " Oh I'm so sorry " stage.
Now after I came out at my previous employer I for some reason became the " go to guy " when some one had found out that one of their family members had been diagnosed with hiv/aids so what else was I to do but help with any intel I had gathered on my own or thru the various magazines available and believe U me with 16 of us working the floor plus the back of the house staff and all 5 managers my days were usually filled with trying to answer questions about meds, side effects and any thing else hiv/aids related and in fact the few customers that I made privy to my health " condition " were overly eager to help in any way they could from nothing more than moral support ( a hug ) to advice on finding some sort of financial fix which made me one truly happy camper to know that my having decided to be open had caused so many to become self aware that people with hiv/aids are just like every one else in all walks of life :) .

posted November 14, 2017 (edited)
A myHIVteam Member

For all of us their are phases we go through before we accept and have hope.

For me, I am bisexual, I was married. I had relationships with boys and girls in Middle school and high school. From 19 to 28 I had so much sex and many threesomes.

Being bisexual not only brings discomfort from straight, but LGBTQ also.

I have always lived my life openly, and raised in a small town. My peers accepted me in the sixth grade, because we were young and didn't know what we were doing, myself and the others didn't realise we were having sex until 8th grade biology and of course at that time same sex was not mentioned at all. For most of us, we know what gay was until college.

I went on after graduation discovering AIDS & HIV in the news, Ryan Whites life, Rolling Stone magazine which for years had an article on the disease every month, and that opened my eyes to Africa where babies born with HIV with being thrown in ditches to die and in adults the disease was mostly transferred through heterosexual sex.

I started volunteering and working with hiv patients through non- profits and sending aid to organisations that specifically helped the children in Africa, at one time raising $65,000.00 with a fundraiser I organised.

When I became HIV positive, it was almost a non-event. I had full support from my friends and my family. I continued reach and encourage college students to get tested. I would be speaker in one of their biology classes and no question was inappropriate, all questions were answered openly.

Now to your question. Anyone with HIV has no obligation to defend themselves when attacked with derogatory and bullying speech. Just walk away if someone you don't know or care about.

If it's friends or family, ask them if "we can take the conversation down a bit and discuss what HIV is, statistics if you know them, and why they are angry or fearful.

There is absolute power in knowledge, openness and strength in your truth.

Don't fear the conversation, be courageous and do it in charity for the others.

posted November 11, 2017
A myHIVteam Member

@A myHIVteam Member that is the kinds of answers I was wondering about. I just think straight people have the stigma worse than gay people. Not only do they have the stigma but the judging and confusion to deal with because people are so ignorant.

posted November 8, 2017
A myHIVteam Member

Im thankful i havent been in this situation ive had gay friends and to me they are equally as valuable if not more valuable as everyone else they have the biggest hearts. I may be straight but ive always been able to identify with gay people you dont get to pick your attraction and we have something in coming we are both attracted to men 😌
That being said if somebody says something about this being a so called gay disease then i guess you can count me in the group im positive i contracted this at 16 jus a few months after losing my virginity and i wasnt having sex with everyone i may have been near the wrong person at the wrong time and you can tell that someone with hiv has it theres people who dont have it who look like they would so if a person is ignorant and thinks they couldnt contract it i would just remind them that i was one of those people and my world flipped at 16. You can smack the ignorance out of someone. They half to have something click in there brain somehow

posted November 9, 2017

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