For me, stigma represents rejection. It is especially frustrating that a community (the gay community at large) that was so adversely affected by HIV in North America are the ones most likely to be guilty of discrimination, discomfort and rejection. This lack of knowledge and education is especially visible on dating sites where those who are negative refer to themselves as "clean" or disease-free. Furthermore, there is a false effort among people to pretend to be supportive and empathetic while judging your diagnosis and viewing you in a negative light. Sure, they like to have fundraisers and feign compassion but people seldom create safe places for acceptance or access to friendships beyond the superficial. Stigma means that most of us, especially those who live in rural or conservative communities are not allowed to live authentically for fear of reprisal, rejection, loss of income, loss of family, loss of home, etc. Stigma represents the additional disenfranchising, polarization and isolation of a fringe population who deserve much, much love, compassion, understanding and support.