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Qué es mejor contarle a los demás (familia y amigos) que tienes VIH o mejor que nadie se entere??

A myHIVteam Member asked a question 💭
México

Because sometimes I want to talk about it, but I'm afraid 😔 of how others will react because of all the stigma that still exists around the illness. Just the few doctors I've told about my condition, as soon as they find out, their attitude changes 🤷🏻‍♀️. I never imagined I'd be in this situation 😔😔😔

Porque yo aveces lo quisiera contar, pero me da miedo 😔 la reacción de los demás por tanto extigma que hay aún sobre la enfermedad. Tan solo los algunos médicos que les he dicho sobre mi condición, en cuanto lo saben cambian su trato🤷🏻‍♀️. Jamás en la vida imaginé estar en esta situación 😔😔😔

August 28
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A myHIVteam Member

I am OUT out with my status, I wanted to tell my family & some friends then it became hard to remember who was told and who was NOT told. Currently everyone other than my son, who lives 6 hours away from me and with his dad knows about my status.

When I was a Peer Navigator most of my clients had told less than 5 people in their life. I know positive advocates who are on the cover of HIV magazines & in Biktarvy & Dovato adds and then I know in the closet HIV positive people. There is no right answer, but once you tell the people, there is no taking it back.

August 31
myHIVteam

It's completely understandable to feel that fear, and you're not alone in this. Many members of myHIVteam have gone through the exact same thing. What you experienced with some doctors is a painful experience, and unfortunately, it's not uncommon, but it doesn't reflect how everyone in your life will react.

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It's completely understandable to feel that fear, and you're not alone in this. Many members of myHIVteam have gone through the exact same thing. What you experienced with some doctors is a painful experience, and unfortunately, it's not uncommon, but it doesn't reflect how everyone in your life will react.

The decision to share is entirely yours, and there's no one-size-fits-all answer. The most important thing is that you feel safe and ready. There are a few things to consider before deciding to tell someone:

- Trust: Choose people you trust deeply. As one myHIVteam member shared: "As long as the person is trustworthy, the process will go well."
- Your emotional safety: Think about how that person would react and whether you would feel safe with their response.
- Your well-being: People who have support from someone close to them tend to cope better with their treatment.
- Your boundaries: You can clarify if you want the information to remain between you and your loved ones.

You don't have to tell everyone. Even telling just one trusted person can make a huge difference in how you feel. It can also help to prepare yourself with clear information about HIV before sharing your status, so you can answer questions and correct misconceptions. Many negative reactions stem from a lack of knowledge, not malice.

And remember: living with HIV doesn't define who you are. You deserve support, understanding, and love, just like everyone else. 💙

Es completamente comprensible sentir ese miedo, y no estás sola en esto. Muchos miembros de myHIVteam han pasado exactamente por lo mismo. Lo que viviste con algunos médicos es una experiencia dolorosa y lamentablemente no es rara, pero no refleja cómo reaccionarán todas las personas en tu vida.

La decisión de contarlo es Mostrar respuesta completa

Es completamente comprensible sentir ese miedo, y no estás sola en esto. Muchos miembros de myHIVteam han pasado exactamente por lo mismo. Lo que viviste con algunos médicos es una experiencia dolorosa y lamentablemente no es rara, pero no refleja cómo reaccionarán todas las personas en tu vida.

La decisión de contarlo es completamente tuya, y no hay una respuesta única para todos. Lo más importante es que te sientas segura y lista. Hay algunas cosas a considerar antes de decidir contarle a alguien:

- Confianza: Elige personas en quienes confíes profundamente. Como compartió un miembro de myHIVteam: *"Siempre y cuando la persona sea de confianza, el proceso irá bien"*
- Tu seguridad emocional: Piensa en cómo reaccionaría esa persona y si te sentirías segura con su respuesta
- Tu bienestar: Las personas que tienen apoyo de alguien cercano tienden a manejar mejor su tratamiento
- Tus límites: Puedes aclarar si quieres que la información se quede entre ustedes

No tienes que contarle a todo el mundo. Incluso contarle solo a una persona de confianza puede marcar una gran diferencia en cómo te sientes. También puede ayudar prepararte con información clara sobre el VIH antes de contarlo, para poder responder preguntas y corregir ideas equivocadas. Muchas reacciones negativas vienen del desconocimiento, no de maldad.

Y recuerda: vivir con VIH no define quién eres. Mereces apoyo, comprensión y amor, igual que cualquier persona. 💙

August 28

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