Just because you found it first. Doesn't mean it started with you. Or it could have been a viral blip. Does it seem like a new infection or something they've had for a minute. Based on your experience. Listen to the doctor and keep your head on a swivel

Are you sure? I’m HIV negative but my partner is also undetectable but now I’m scared. 🫣

Who is you'r Dr? Was it an ID Dr or a GP? I'm also in Kansas City. This below is from the internet but I work at the Kansas City Health Dept in HIV Services, of course you can have the same viral DNA as the person who transmitted HIV to you or vise versa. You can message me directly if you like I can help you find another provider..

Yes, if someone transmits HIV, the recipient can initially have the same, or nearly identical, viral DNA, especially if the infection was transmitted recently. HIV inserts a DNA copy of its genetic information into the host cell's DNA. However, because HIV mutates very quickly, the virus will evolve differently in each person over time.
Key Details on Shared HIV DNA
Initial Infection: When a person is newly infected, the strain of HIV is usually a close copy of the donor's strain, sharing significant genetic material.
Rapid Mutation: HIV evolves quickly due to high mutation rates, meaning the virus in the new host will not stay identical to the original host's virus for long.
Integrated DNA: HIV inserts its genetic material (proviral DNA) into the host cell's DNA.
Clonal Growth: If an infected cell reproduces (divides), all of its descendant cells will contain the exact same, identical strain of HIV.