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October 13, 2025
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Members shared deeply personal perspectives on whether they would prefer to date someone who is HIV-negative or positive, with responses... Read more

Members shared deeply personal perspectives on whether they would prefer to date someone who is HIV-negative or positive, with responses reflecting a wide range of experiences from those who prioritize love and support over status to those who prefer a negative partner to avoid compounding health challenges. Several members emphasized that HIV does not define them as people, advocating for self-love and rejecting stigma, while others acknowledged the real-world difficulties of dating with HIV, including loneliness, fear of rejection, and the ongoing impact of stigma despite scientific advances in treatment. A recurring theme was the tension between hopeful idealism and lived reality, with some members finding strength in community and self-acceptance while others expressed pragmatic concerns about the emotional and physical complexities of serodiscordant or seroconcordant relationships.

A myHIVteam Member

As long as they love me and are not an asshole or a cheater I don't care. We can take our meds together, they can take PrEP, they can take none. We can watch football and make forts and smoke pot together. If we don't want others to care so much about our status they are afraid of us, hoe do we do that when some of us are clearly afraid of each other?

October 24, 2025
A myHIVteam Member

It's not what defines you; we are special beings, and it's about not stigmatizing ourselves. It's not the end of the world or anything like that that's happening to them, and we're not extraterrestrials. We are human beings with a specific condition. That doesn't define us as people. We are fractal beings, and life goes on. Whoever wants to be with us is there; whoever doesn't can go to hell. We came into this world alone, and we leave it alone. Friends, I love you because I love myself.

no es lo que te define somos seres especiales y es no estigmatizarnos nosotros muchas veces no es el final del mundo ni nada parecido que les pasa ni somos extraterrestres somos seres humanos con una condiccion especifica eso no nos define como persona ser fractal y la vida comtinua el que quiera estar con uno esta el que no que se valla a la mierda vinimos solos solos nos vamos amigos los amo por que me amo

October 30, 2025
A myHIVteam Member

Good points but there isn't really anyone out there that whats a partner with hiv. No matter how factual the science is, its seen safter to not be with someone that has hiv.
They use words like "possible" but now how "probable". Does everyone with hiv find what they are looking for are we subject to "stigma"? and that sigma only lasts as long as you let it.
How many jobs do hiv+ people lose because people are uncomfortable around them? How many + people report being lonely? Acting like stigma isnt anything to worry about is dangerous.

October 24, 2025
A myHIVteam Member

Doesnt matter if positive or not.

October 18, 2025
A myHIVteam Member

I simply don't let it define me , I'm greater than this

October 14, 2025

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