@A myHIVteam Member If he loves you as much as you love him, he is an idiot not wanting to take care of himself for your sake. He doesn't want anyone to know he is infected? So, then he takes the risk of getting full blown AIDS as a result. Stupid is as stupid does. Find somebody else who values you and will do the right thing for both of you. This relationship is one-sided and needs to stop for your sake and peace of mind. You can't tell him anything? Dump him, wash your hands, and move along dear. Reality is living in the now and thinking of tomorrow, without the excess baggage.

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It is a touchy subject but I regularly mention finding a Dr, getting his meds, etc. I have given him phone numbers to call to get on his meds. He was living in Ohio had a dr that he saw regularly and took his meds. Stayed undetectable. Then 6 months ago he moved back to Michigan and ran out of meds. Doesn't want to get meds here cause he doesn't want anyone to know he is infected. I watched him run out of meds. He keeps saying he is low and not detectable. But that doesn't make sense. Using condoms is such a hindrance but I keep telling him to get tested and go to the dr. take your meds. The other day a friend gave him 10 of his pills. He thinks that'll hold him over til he is back in Ohio next week. I can't make him do anything. I've found him a Dr, talked to his insurance company, etc. But he needs to go and he needs to take the meds. I feel so disrespected. Even though it's not up to me. We only reunited for a few months then broke up for 2 months and then reunited a week ago. With plans to go to Ohio with him. But he is going first to a new job. He invited me to go to the Dr with him and hear for myself what is going on. I do plan on going. I'm not fully educated and I feel the need to be.

Please tell your boyfriend that this is not a game. He can actually get very sick without his medications. There is almost nothing you can do. If he doesn't want to help himself, he's the one that has to put the pills to his mouth and live a healthy life.

What is an average? My partner has been off meds for a few months now. Going back to Dr next week. And I am curious about the same thing. I know he is not going to be honest with what the Dr tells him so I reach to you guys.

First of all, my dear, you will never become negative using the antivirals of today, we are all waiting for a cure. As far as your question, it depends on each individual's composition. Please talk to your doctor about your medication. And yes, alcohol and your quality of life does have a correlation between your numbers going up-and-down... Becoming untectable is a very individual thing for anyone on antivirals