At the job I got transferred to a shift that I didn't want. And in my mind I blame; the lead, the district manager, and everyone (in my head lol). One day one I knew I overlooked the signs that were obvious. But today a voice hit me when I had processed the situations over and over again. I was talking too much! And by talking to much I mean finding anything to say, ask this, analyze that, and say what's exactly on my mind if I felt the need to know. I did it again and that voice said BE QUIET… read more
If you have a HIV case manager. Try asking them for assistance. Tell them that you’re going through a rough patch and you need people to talk to your situation. It’s not impossible. You just have to be proactive and receptive.
@A myHIVteam Member since your answer to one of my questions as being addicted to DRAMA, this is why you can't keep that mouth shut at the most appropriate time. Overthinking things and then verbalizing it can and will get some people in trouble. You become shunned and opportunities may dry up that you feel was meant for you. Best practice is to absorb what is being said and think on what response would be most appropriate, if at all. You do not need to say anything about what is being said. Calm, quiet serenity. Keep that trap shut and mind your own business and not try to be imposing on other people's conversations. Speaking your mind and complaining to the wrong people will also backfire and not come out as you thought it would, turning people against you. Don't play the victim. You don't need an audience since most in that audience couldn't care in the least of what you are ranting about. Be humble and practice silent solitude.
@A myHIVteam Member you know I get that I shouldn't be so hard on myself....and like @A myHIVteam Member said the paranoid thoughts gonna be there.....and Darin thanks for the advice and we all have different journey and I won't go into detail about what I believe or know.....about what you are saying about God....I know I'm different and eventhough I have no clue I know I believe in the "indifference" and being in my time space straight "tripping" on this new journey and being me it's humbling....and thank you for the advice. I'm not full of taking in too much advice...but it'll click.....I really appreciate it though....I love that we try and help one another......omg I just really know it'll work out like it always should....I wish you well...
I don't know.. but some people just can't b quiet.. even when they know to.. it's like a Hyper Active thing!.. me.. iam totally quiet.. I learn by observation!.. I do know those that talk too much.. it's irration to the Brain.. and people try to get away from people like that!.. I learned Early n 7th Grade to shut up.. My teacher announced to the class that I had Direah of the Mouth.. and everyone laughed.. but I didn't.. but from that day.. I learned to just listen.. maybe even to an extreme.. u know your just forced to b quiet.. if not.. u never get anywhere.. I've learned those that talk.. only want to hear what they are saying themselves and they don't want anyone else talking.. most all leaders or teachers are like that.. it's a shut up and listen to me Mentality!... It's a Cruel Crazy World.. u just hav to learn to play the game.. they want quiet?... I give them quiet!.. the pay is still the same .. if u ask questions or not.. so just observe.. you'll learn a lot more! Sometimes u just don't need to know everything! 😁😁😁
But I totally get that you understand this, this way....but imma get out there anyway after couple years this way I can just work for myself after I know I'm over being put in with the people....I just don't click with (MEN)....I need my own business that's non discriminatory to a bad snatched queen like me!