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Have You Ever Been Rejected After Sharing Your Status?

A myHIVteam Member asked a question 💭
Mountain Home, AR

Tell me your stories and how you dealt with it?

August 13, 2020
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Members shared deeply painful experiences of rejection after disclosing their HIV-positive status, with several recounting being cruelly... Read more

Members shared deeply painful experiences of rejection after disclosing their HIV-positive status, with several recounting being cruelly dismissed or judged by potential partners and, in some cases, even by spouses who wished them harm. Many members revealed they contracted HIV through sexual assault, expressing the compounded trauma of being blamed or stigmatized for something beyond their control, while others offered powerful reminders that rejection reveals ignorance rather than personal worth. A recurring theme was the importance of surrounding yourself with true friends who stand by you, educating others when possible, leaning on faith and community for strength, and recognizing that anyone who cannot accept your status is not deserving of your time or energy.

A myHIVteam Member

Yes I had a really bad experience this one guy came up to me and told me that I was attractive and I told him that I was positive and he says ew gross back then my doctor told me that I don't have to tell people I'm positive unless I'm at the have sex with them but that was wrong for him to say I didn't ask for this. I'm pretty sure y'all didn't ask for y'all status neither me I was drugged and raped by two men that's how I got it sad world

August 13, 2020
A myHIVteam Member

@A myHIVteam Member thank you for sharing your story.. I also side with @A myHIVteam Member in saying that real friends stick with you through thick and thin and if it werent for my beat friends, I think I would have committed suicide a long time ago.. @A myHIVteam Member your story is inspirational and I thank you for sharing.. @A myHIVteam Member I will keep your words in mind.. its hard being a romantic in a world like this now days.. i love you all thank you

August 17, 2020
A myHIVteam Member

blue Hornix please don't blame yourself for what happened to you I was drugged and raped by two men and I was down for a while I only lost one friend that's okay and to the people that you lost I just shows you that they want your friends to begin with because friends are there through thick and thin just keep your head up but you remember it's only one pill now compared to a long time ago and you also have Jesus by your side and I'm there to new friend love you

August 15, 2020
A myHIVteam Member

Yes and it used to bother me. Then one day I said "educate yourself" to the person who was rejecting me. After going through CD count and viral load and what they mean I told him I was healthier than he was. It is there lose not having me in their life. So buck up and smile and say thanks for the opportunity? This leaves them curious and confused. So you get y our pound of flesh with that.

August 15, 2020
A myHIVteam Member

Yeah my ex wife told me she'd be happy if I was dead. 18 years of hell. Divorced her and much more happy. My advice... hang with those that truly care about you. Dont listen to the words... watch the actions

September 4, 2020

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