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How Do You Tell Someone After 3 Years Of Being Together That You Have Become Hiv Positive

How Do You Tell Someone After 3 Years Of Being Together That You Have Become Hiv Positive

So me and my man have been together 3 years and do to a sexual assault I have become hiv-positive and I'm not sure how he's going to take it but he knows that I take medication daily he concerns I got my health and I'm just not sure how to come about and tell him he is thinking I'm just being distant and then he's getting the fact that I'm cheating but I'm not so I just don't know what to do

A myHIVteam Member said:

What Jeann said. I had been unfaithful to my wife; it was years ago, and I hadn't had an HIV test since just before. Yet when my doctor said I was +, I sat down with her immediately and told her. I involved her in whatever she wanted to be involved with (doctor appointments, tests, etc), and followed her comfort level, trying to be respectful of her. The affair was over and done with years ago but this was yet another painful, now permanent, reminder of it. We'd gone through separation and counseling and I didn't want to lose her or our marriage. Thankfully, we're weathering it together. And when she gets uncomfortable about it still, I walk with her on it. Love is patient, love is kind, love is forgiving.

posted over 1 year ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

Yall been together for 3 years so yalls love is pretty deep. I'd sit down and tell him give him the full detail and im sure he will be more understanding and stick by you no matter what.

posted over 1 year ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

Lol, that's absolutely true

posted over 1 year ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

Just to add to this story which i now have no secrets between my relationship. I did have to let him know so that he could have a full understanding in case something ever happened to me. I have allowed him interaction with my healthcare. and so gladi did because i recently had a total thyroidectomy with post op led me to be hospitalized 2 days after release just to be put back in with pneumonia🤗

posted 6 months ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

Good morning from this side of the world lolol

posted over 1 year ago
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