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Should I Forgive My GF...really Need Some Advice

Should I Forgive My GF...really Need Some Advice

So I just got into a relationship with my gf and from day 1 we have had unprotected sex, I blame myself for not using protection. We started to become closer and closer. She has been molested and sexually abused from a young age. We are planning on moving in together, and starting a life. I wanted to be something good in her life and be the man she deserves. I got a phone call last week from her brother saying she tested positive for HIV about 2 years ago. She didn’t tell me. I was devastated… read more

A myHIVteam Member said:

My dearest friend trust and betrayal are very big factors. I too was infected by someone whom I love very much. Unfortunately for me the trust was too grave and I could not resume the relationship. As for you please seek counseling as well as herself. After your therapy you can both discuss where you're at. Much love 🌈💓💓💚

edited, originally posted over 1 year ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

Yea forgive, if that's what you need to do. How it happened to her is beside the point. Can you trust her to tell you other need to know information whether or not it makes them uncomfortable or not? Yes, you should have been more responsible and worn a condom, but if she had your best interest at heart she would have made sure you wore one since she knew in advance.

posted over 1 year ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

Hard decision. But you sound like an amazing person for even considering this. She is very lucky to have you in her life still.

posted over 1 year ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

I was just explaining her history leading up to two years ago, and I will never forget I’m currently on PEP so we’ll see how that go, she’s now on her meds and we’re talking through it, and wow at 12 that’s tough seems like your strong and made a life for yourself, tbh that’s inspirational, I’m doing my best trying to be strong

posted over 1 year ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

Thats a beautiful story. My advice would be if you truly love her u can forgive but will never forget. Yall can be each other support but if she got the virus when she was a child something not adding up. She got it 2 years ago. And ask your doctor about biktarvy. Yall shouldn't have never had unprotected sex but since yall did, if you got it just remember it's not a death sentence, life goes on and it doesn't stop for nobody unless you truly want it to. If you believe in God put your trust in him. I found out at 12 years old I hated her so bad after that but that didn't hurt nobody but myself. I have 2 daughters now and I promised myself I would do whatever it takes to make sure my babies and baby dad don't have the virus and they don't

posted over 1 year ago
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