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What Did You Think About HIV/AIDS Or People That Had HIV/AIDS BEFORE You Was Diagnosed?

What Did You Think About HIV/AIDS Or People That Had HIV/AIDS BEFORE You Was Diagnosed?

This came up in a discussion earlier for me. We all know what the discrimination or the stigma is of this virus now. But before you was diagnosed, what was your true feeling about HIV/AIDS or people who had it (if you knew of anyone)? How different was your view then compared to now?

A myHIVteam Member said:

I never thought it as something bad just took it like any other disease because my mum had it before she died with aids my sister too.Infact i use to respect anyone i had it and use to feel compassion especially when was in the orphanage and like 75% of the kids there had it.So until i get it and my brother too until he ignored the meds and died with aids.Hiv is how you take it accept it stay long ignore it and die soon.That is how it is all in all am so grateful that i can get the free meds and stay alive....HIV & ASIA

edited, originally posted over 2 years ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

When AIDS came into the scene in the early 80s, I was 9 years old. I do not remember much of anything back then though as I grew up, I remember my dad telling AIDS jokes, some of which I still remember to this day.
I lived in the middle of nowhere, not much different today. Back when I was a kid, AIDS only happened in the big metropolitan areas, so we lived in a "safe" area. I remember when going to the big city us kids being reminded to not touch other guys for the fear of maybe the virus passing on. If we needed to use the bathroom, we had to wait to go for the hour and a half drive home, because we might get AIDS from the toilet seat. As I got a little older and women and children were getting AIDS, we didn't go to the big city at all unless it was an absolute nescessity. As I became a teenager and learned how AIDS was transfered, there was no reason to be so cautious, and my brother and I taught our parents what was true and what wasn't.
In my 20s and early 30s, I would never had concidered dating a poz person for the fear of getting it sexually. If someone expressed interest in me, I just ignored them, or stopped communicating cold turkey not educating myself any farther. I just didn't want to be around that. Then at the age of 36, I got the diagnosis after trying to be so careful.

posted over 2 years ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

You want me to be honest right? I thought we were all dirty and tainted now I have the disease and that could not be further from the truth

posted 11 months ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

I was in a dream like daze when some of my friends were diagnosed in the early 80's. I just thought this was not happening, but it was. The reality of it all. Then I made the decision to get tested myself with my closest friend. We went together to support each other. 70% of my friends, who were gay or identified as gay, died from this disease. The rest of us scattered with the wind. I haven't found any of them here since I joined. We all thought we were going to die. I was in denial for a long time.

posted 11 months ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

I really had no opinion on HIV. I live in a small southwestern Oklahoma farm town. HIV was a problem in the city not the small rural farm towns i grew up around. I felt free to play and do things that had risk but there was no scare. Then i meet someone with HIV. He was a ex of mine when i was 18. He was way out in left field. I felt guilty im a recovery addict and alcoholic. I started shooting dope when i was 17. I shot him up his first time when we were 18. When he came back into me life years later. I felt guilty i felt it was my fault he was the way he was. I didn't do the things i needed to do. I wanted to fix him i wanted to do drugs and most of all i felt guilt. 3 months later i found out i had HIV. So i just thought well now im going to die. I jumped off the deepend and really jumped back off into the meth seen. I wanted to die and i wanted to speed it up and make it happen faster. All i knew was what he had told me. And just about everything he told me was a lie. I got in some trouble and went to rehab. And it saved my life. The nurse at the rehab and my doctor educated me. Told me i was not going to die. I learned little by little. And soon i didn't want to die. I moved back to that small little southwest farm town. Meet my husband. We were together for 12 years married for almost 2 years. He had heath problems he was HIV negative. But he passed away January 24th 2019. But here i am and im still very much alive. I have a host of other health issues since finding out i had HIV. But i have people that love me. They keep me going. And my angel my husband keeps me fighting. I will not give up.

edited, originally posted about 2 years ago
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