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Learning To Be Comfortable With Your Sexuality After Diagnosis

A myHIVteam Member asked a question πŸ’­
Lyndhurst, NJ

Hi,

I was recently diagnosed in March of 2019. With the help of Biktarvy, I was undetectable in May! Learning to be sexually safe was one of the most important lessons out of this whole experience thus far, but I seem to have lost confidence when it comes to the bedroom. I have a hard time staying up; I think most of it is a mental block and having to be comfortable with my body and the person I care about.

How have you overcome this mental roadblock? What’s worked, what hasn’t worked? Is it… read more

July 29, 2019
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A myHIVteam Member

First and foremost Welcome to our teamπŸ€— being a fellow New Yorker I want to give you an extended hug as a neighbor in New Jersey....sex after diagnosis can be difficult.. it took me some therapy and some self-taught/ self-love to understand the difference between what I was doing vs. What I wanted ...which is ultimately the goal... intimacy can come to those who allow themselves to love...physically, mentally and spiritually.. sex for me took a whole new meaning after my diagnosis and I've learned to love myself and in doing so I protect my partner and I learned to love him in a whole new way πŸ€—πŸ˜‰πŸ˜ŠπŸ₯‚πŸ‘πŸŒ…... it will happen ...it will take a little time.πŸ’šβ€οΈπŸ§‘πŸ’›πŸ’™πŸ’œβ™₯️🌈

July 29, 2019 (edited)
A myHIVteam Member

Yes @A myHIVteam Member because sexuality it supposedly to be happiness so it's better to be open and enjoy it.

July 29, 2019
A myHIVteam Member

Good points Kitonyo. My wife and I had an average sex life before my diagnosis. It hasn't changed much; no more no less. We're both in middle age and, well, chubby. But we're also both working on that, and open about both emotional & physical intimacy changes.

July 29, 2019
A myHIVteam Member

Sexuality after diagnosis,good question this is one of the hardest part but it will depend on you first i think if you want to enjoy and feel comfortable around your partner is to be open with him or her.We were discussing this last time with the hospital support group and discovered so many women have been hide from their men.Atleast they were very open and we tried to talk to them which it was so good.So me i prefer to make love with someone who knows my status or even who is HIV too, so that i could feel more comfortable.And i think that is why i decided to remain single.
Hugs πŸ’™β™₯οΈπŸ’šπŸ’πŸ’«

July 29, 2019 (edited)
A myHIVteam Member

You are lucky to only have that side effect :(

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