I had my ex ask me to let him have one of the kids as a dependent on his taxes. Even though I’ve received very little help if any since we separated. He gave me his story about a $2000 hospital bill and car plates renewed. He has yet to ask me how I’m doing after my car spun out last weekend. I politely said no. Some people will just never step up to the plate or change. It’s up to yourself to not let them take advantage of your kindness. Say NO and simply move on. The minute you stop allowing them to have power over your emotions is the minute you stop feeling used.

Users are losers and there are many use tough love as they will never change if you keep feeding that habit

Just because you care for someone don't let it interfere with taking care of yourself and your own needs. Take care of yourself first! Make sure your needs are met and then if you're able you can help someone if you wish too. But don't let anyone make you feel guilty for not being their personal ATM. Hugs and love! John

I agree with all the above. You need to take care of yourself first. It might be he needs $5 here or $10 there, then after a while it will be can you lend me $100 or $150, then later $300. Pay your bills first, set money aside for yourself second. Then what's left, if you can live without it and never see it again, offer that. If it is not enough for him, sooner or later he will look for cash from someone else.

I don't think you can ever stop feeling . But you can't let him use you now , he won't be around for your birthday. Like John said, you have to take care of yourself first. Take Care