If You're Single, How Has Dating Been Since You Know Your Status?? if you are dating, do you specifically look for poz people, or doesn't it matter?
@A myHIVteam Member I added your question to it as well that is a good question to thank you!
Let me just say prior to finding out about my status dating was already hard . This just makes it even harder . when I was diagnosed I didn't date for a while the fear of rejection kicked in. Then I found out about poz only site and when I saw that they were all pretty much still full of games as well I went back into not dating at all. If I do date or try to explore the option of dating someone who is not poz I end up overthinking over analyzing and self-sabotaging before I can even give them the chance to like me. I really haven't found somebody that I want to take the time to get to know and let them into that part of my life. The few friends and family members that do no still treat me the same however I do have a couple of friends that have totally abandoned me I'm just not ready to deal with that rejection when it comes to dating.
For me, it has been hard to date with my HIV diagnosis since 2008. At the current moment, I'm not dating anybody. I've dated men who are positive and one who was not. I was honest about my status to all including the one who was negative, and it appeared he was understanding and accepted my status. A year later, he threw my status in my face stating I should be glad he dealt with me because no one in their right mind would.
As for those who were just like me, it came down to the fact I was settling because I felt I could not do any better. From what I have experienced far, I prefer to date men who have the same status. Therefore, I don't have to educate them about HIV and treatments.
Moreover, I want them to get to know me as I would like to know them. If not, I don't waste too much of my time. Yet, I'm not giving up!
I just started dating. In the past, it was sex first then dating and relationship, that was so backward. I let this one guy get to know me first. We have been on and off for 2 years. I finally started to talk to him more and I told him 3 months after we had been talking for a while that I was poz. He said that it hurt him, but he still wants to be with me. We talk everyday face time and we talk for 3 or 4 hours. He makes me laugh and I do the same for him. I have always said if I was going to be with someone, they have to get to know me first, hot my HIV.
after my last one that lived here for 14 years and we only had sex in the first two because he wouldnt stop whoreing around and likeva fool i let him stay in the other room for 12 years later, i had forgot how to aproach or flirt with others, and when i finaly got rid of him i was about the same as i am now, i stay home here in the swamp where i live with my critters and nature, but by myself,, i tried a few dateing sites but always backed out,so im running around kissing frogs hopeing one will turn into my prince, if not well i already have my toumb built for my ashes but im not through with romance yet, 2 years ago i traded a few chickens for a good lay on valintines day