How hard was it for you to tell ur love ones that you are hiv positive?

How hard was it for you to tell ur love ones that you are hiv positive?

I'm scared to let my fam know I am hiv positive... it breaks my heart not having the courage to tell them I know my mom would back me up but it's my dad im scared of he will disowned me an kick me out...

A myHIVteam Member said:

My advise would be to make fresh lenonade. Drink a couple of glasses a day. As for food. Boiled rice and carrots. Banana. Yogurt. And Pineapple is great as it has natural enzymes with will aid the digestive system.
Eating a orange or satsuma before food also helps digestion

posted over 1 year ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

Hi Alex; Actually I was rather stupid about it. I am a very logical person. It was very hard for me to tell my family that I was gay because of religious beliefs and prejudices but my mom was a nurse so by the time I found out I was HIV positive I thought well she'll just handle it like any medical problem or diagnosis. Unfortunately, it was 1990 there were no effective treatments. Everyone was dying, so naturally, she took it like a mother and not a nurse. My father and she divorced when I was 4 years old so I didn't know him at all. My identical twin brother lived in a small town and was already uncomfortable with the news that his brother was gay and the news that he had AIDS which what everyone leaped to. I became an HIV educator for the state of Florida where I was living at the time in the hope of dispelling ignorance that even existed in my own family. Sadly my twin and I are still estranged to this very day. I now tell people on a need to know basis. friends and family alike. If they don't really have a need to know I just tell them I have a chronic illness that is controlled with medication and leave it at that. I was so much in the public eye in Florida that pretty much the entire state knew because I had done TV appearances and all kinds of high profile things. I now live a quiet existence but my friends, close family that I have left and even my employer knows. I am single but when I date I let them know right up front because if they can't handle the news then time will not make the disclosure any easier and actually I believe can be quite harmful when building trust. In the end, there is no easy way to disclose. No right or wrong way to do it. Some will accept the news in a positive and nurturing way others will now and will bring their own prejudices into the disclosure and may leave you. There is now far less ignorance about the disease than there was but pockets still exist. But the reality is if they cannot handle the news they were probably no one you could count on anyway and you're better off knowing that up front.

posted almost 2 years ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

I am sure when your ready you will be able to tell your parents.
You a recently diagnosed and I amaguen it is taking you some time to get your head round this.
Take things day by day dear. Eat well. If your on your meds stick to a rountine in taking them. A little exercise even if it’s a quick daily walk.

I have been hiv+ since 1998 and still find it difficult to tell people. I try to be open & honest about it.

Good luck. Kindest regards. Michael x

posted over 1 year ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

I was scared to tell my family also. It took me several years to tell my mum & dad. Had only confidided in my siblings. I try now to be open and honest with my status and wear my red ribbon with pride

posted over 1 year ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

I was diagnosed Dec. 27th 2013. I felt I needed to let my family know immediately. Although my family is not close in proximity or with one another, I did feel the need to let them know. My partner and I decided to have a luncheon on January 12th 2014 and invited my parents and both of my brothers and their wives. I did not invite my nieces or nephews as I thought it was up to their parents to tell them; or perhaps not tell them. It went as expected. My mom was very "angry", my dad sat silently, my younger brother and his wife cried, my older brother could not grasp it and his wife cried. However, I decided to Not educate them on HIV but asked them to educate themselves. After telling them I was going to be fine and that my partner and I were going to continue as we are, they seemed to all settle down. For me, it was a good feeling to get the news out early and not try to cope with not telling them on the onset. Good luck to you and I hope things go well for you!!!

posted over 1 year ago
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