How dose one get over the fear of infecting your partner, this is to the point of not being able to have a healthy sex life with them?

How dose one get over the fear of infecting your partner, this is to the point of not being able to have a healthy sex life with them?

A myHIVteam Member said:

There is such a stigma where HIV is concerned. I felt so isolated, to the point of complete alienateion . Peoples treated me so harsh and indifferent when I would try to share my HIV status with them, the hardest part was seeing my previous self and being able to directly identify with such a harsh and ignorant behavior, completely phobic and lacking any amount of consideration of their feelings.. 😪 now finding myself on the receiving end of this treatment is almost unbearable. How I have found a partner that from first introduction
Has so compassionately and indiscriminatily accepted me. It moves me to tears as I narrate this comment. His dedication to knowledge and objectivity and acceptance of me and my condition to the point of unprotected sex is something of a notable character qualities found in few people in our society. I'm truly blessed..

posted 8 months ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

Progress with this disease has been so rapid from being a definite death sentence to becoming just another chronic disease like diabetes where you take a pill or shot a day for your life that people simply have not caught up with new research and live with their past knowledge of it. There is no excuse for the judicial system to not know that in your defense that having No viral load whether you disclose or not is absolute evidence you did not transfer anything to anyone. Yet still, I also tell everyone. Doctors all clear within a period of time should be all you need.

posted about 1 year ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

Are you undetectable? If so the partner study has shown that you will not transmit to your partner. Its a study that measured 1700 serodiscordant couples over several years, and no partner to partner transmissions

posted almost 3 years ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

You and your partner should discuss PrEP with your doctor. If your partner is negative and you are undetectable, PrEP will be an additional barrier that will keep your partner healthy, current prevention rate about 93%. Hope this helps.

posted almost 3 years ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

Thank you for sourcing. The articles you posted are "old", at least for HIV research they are, as is my first documented article in the pic above.
THIS is the newest results, as continued from the original Partner study:

http://www.natap.org/2018/IAC/IAC_06.htm

And THIS is a great explanation of what "zero" means...

http://www.aidsmap.com/Zero-transmissions-mean-...(Phone number can only be seen by the question and answer creators)

PLEASE read all you can , that is 2018 or newer. The U=U campaign DOES stipulate that the HIV person must be

1) on their daily medication regimen, AND
2) Stay undetectable by getting tested as prescribed

It is very important for the HIV community (and for those who need to be educated) to have the newest, science-backed information so they can decide for themselves.

As far as your (my, ALL) HIV medication, it is NOT a cure and not meant to be. It is NOT, in and of itself, able to stop the transmission of HIV. There are also people who do not become undetectable on meds. In fact, there is an "orphan disease" petition for these patients who take ART but can't get their viral loads to undetectable, so no, medication is not the cure all. HOWEVER, those of us who ARE able to get to, and keep viral loads undetectable, CAN NOT transmit the virus. It is SUPPRESSED, just like HPV is suppressed... remember the ads, "It's about suppression"? This is the same concept.

If a partner who is HIV negative but has Herpes 1, 2, Hep C, etc, we as HIV -negs are at WAY MORE OF A RISK than they are. In fact, BECAUSE we have HIV, those other stds can cause more of an issue to US than them. Basically, an already sick person need not worry about getting HIV from a person who is actively on ART and ACTIVELY UNDETECTABLE.

I hope this helps clear some things up! :-)

-Nicole

posted 10 months ago
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