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Barrie, ON

How can I tell my husband and family that I am bisexual? I have these feelings for multiple genders.

June 22
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Coming out as bisexual is a deeply personal journey, and there's no single "right" way to do it. While this is outside the scope of HIV-related topics, it's worth noting that many people living with HIV navigate disclosure of multiple personal truths at once — and the principles around sharing sensitive information can Show Full Answer

Coming out as bisexual is a deeply personal journey, and there's no single "right" way to do it. While this is outside the scope of HIV-related topics, it's worth noting that many people living with HIV navigate disclosure of multiple personal truths at once — and the principles around sharing sensitive information can overlap.

Here are some general tips that may help when thinking about disclosure:

- Choose a safe, comfortable setting — pick a time when you and your husband or family members are calm and not distracted
- Start with someone you trust most — it can feel easier to tell one supportive person first before broader conversations
- Be prepared for questions — people may need time to process, and that's okay
- Set boundaries — let people know what you're comfortable discussing and what you'd like kept private
- Give people time — reactions may vary, and some people need space to reflect before responding thoughtfully

Remember, you don't owe anyone this information until you feel truly ready and safe to share it. Surrounding yourself with supportive, respectful people makes a big difference.

For more tailored guidance on coming out as bisexual, speaking with an LGBTQ+-affirming counselor or therapist could be a wonderful next step. 💙

June 22
A myHIVteam Member

Depends on what type of conversation you're trying to have. Are you saying it just to let them know. Or are you inviting someone new over for dinner?

June 22 (edited)
A myHIVteam Member

It can be really hard regardless of the gender of the person you are currently with. A lot of people for some reason will not accept that sexuality is not always black and white, and that for some, they can have an attraction to both sexes just the same. Some people go one step further and don't find an attraction to a specific physical trait like sex, but rather, develop a sexual attraction based on the personality of the individual, regardless of their sex.

So it's a bit of a touchy subject in a lot of cases, as not everyone is willing to accept that you can have an attraction to or even feelings for more than one gender. On one hand, it's always best to be honest and true to yourself, but at the same time, you don't necessarily want to put yourself in a position where you have to deal with the limitations of other people's minds or thinking.

If you love him, I think it's important that you be honest with him. He may not be able to accept such a thing, especially at first, but if he truly loves you as well, then such things shouldn't make no difference in the dynamics and trust between the two of you. A true partner will always stand behind you, regardless of whether or not they believe in such a thing. Also, in a true love situation, your happiness is the most important thing, even if it means having to come around to and accept that what makes you happy is something or someone other than them.

June 22
A myHIVteam Member

I would like to buy I'm married to my same-sex partner and he doesn't believe in bisexuality.

June 22

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