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March 12
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Members connected over the emotional difficulty of disclosing HIV status to new doctors, sharing personal experiences with stigma, shame, and... Read more

Members connected over the emotional difficulty of disclosing HIV status to new doctors, sharing personal experiences with stigma, shame, and even judgment from medical providers. Several members offered practical strategies like writing status and medications on a card to avoid saying it aloud, refusing to answer questions unrelated to treatment, and keeping a personal 'symptom list' to stay in control during appointments. A recurring theme was the power of self-advocacy, with many encouraging others to educate providers, report unprofessional behavior, and see themselves as overcomers rather than letting a diagnosis define their future.

A myHIVteam Member

doc's. even more now tend to think we are all the same all had orgiies did drugs drank.. everyone got it in a different way srt8. gay bi and i am sick of being asked if i do drugs (same doc 5 years) NOW I DIDNT SAY I AM BETTER THAN ANYONE THAT DID DRUGS ...people here get so damned nasty but we all arent the same

March 13
A myHIVteam Member

Kyra, that upset feeling is your mind trying to protect you from judgment, and it’s totally normal. To help lower that stress, try making it 'business only.' You could write your status and meds on a card and just hand it to them. That way, you don't have to say the words out loud, which can take the emotional sting out of the moment. You're in charge of your story—you're just giving them the data they need to keep you healthy!

March 12
A myHIVteam Member

Absolutely Nola, and we have to treat each provider as if they are just getting to know us for the first time. 😄👍 I know some of us can admit, including myself😀 that each day with this diagnosis has its own set of challenges😳But we can make notes 📝 and then tell it to our doctors so they can be informed. 👍😃👍Because this diagnosis is ever changing, plus the disclosure helps us to become more stronger 💪😃and adjusted to this new way of life. The conversation will eventually change from “doom and gloom” 😢to making “room for improvement”🌺🥰🌺 possessing a life that the diagnosis just has to go, wherever, we go to be successful.⭐️💫⭐️ The God I serve tells me that I can be successful and take mental health medication. 💊 I can be wonderful and be treated for a diagnosis such as HIV and type two diabetes. 💉We are Overcomers because we do not allow these diagnosises to dictate our future 🏡🌺🥰❤️and I believe that we all have made a decision that no matter what happens😳 our past may be full of mistakes,😬 but our future is spotless and it can be what we put in it. 🌺 🌸🌺 I love y’all.🥰❤️🥰❤️🥰

April 2
A myHIVteam Member

I educate them...... and if they continue unprofessional behavior I report them to the CEO of the hospital.

April 1
A myHIVteam Member

Yeah, I agree with you too. It can be a little annoying however, I’ve learned that the reason they keep asking the question is to see how comfortable you are with talking about it and then you may have information that they do not have in their system. We are the best teachers of this diagnosis because we are the lived experience. I hope this helps and to get away from the repetitive answers. Tell them something that they may not have written down. That is the truth about your diagnosis cause remember, we are helping others as well. God bless you. Love you all.

April 1

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