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When Is A Good Time To Let Family And Friends Know Your Current HIV Status Or Do You Just Keep It To Yourself?

A myHIVteam Member asked a question 💭
Atlanta, GA

I’m currently not sharing my status at the moment; this information is very difficult to obtain let alone sharing with people that are so judge mental nowadays!

January 3, 2024
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Members shared deeply personal perspectives on disclosing HIV status, with the strong consensus being that it is an entirely personal choice,... Read more

Members shared deeply personal perspectives on disclosing HIV status, with the strong consensus being that it is an entirely personal choice, with no obligation to tell anyone except potential sexual partners. Several members emphasized that with effective medication keeping viral loads undetectable, HIV is now a manageable condition rather than a death sentence, so disclosing to family is no longer about preparing them for loss the way it once was. A recurring theme was the balance between the burden of secrecy and the risks of disclosure, with some members finding empowerment and stigma reduction in being open, while others preferred selective sharing due to concerns about judgment, breaches of trust, and the reality that once shared, information cannot be taken back.

A myHIVteam Member

My status was made very public, so I had no control. It was hard at the time, but was like ripping a band aid off. I agree with @A myHIVteam Member, in that it can be empowering to be “out.” Secrets can be a burdon. I believe the importaint point, is that it is up to you. You are not obligated to tell family and friends, but if it feels right, it’s right. Best wishes to you.

January 5, 2024 (edited)
A myHIVteam Member

I let my sister know immediately when i was awaiting test then looped my mom probably two weeks later after I got my nerve together then sat them down together when I was for sure as far as anyone else it's not their business I'm single so no partner to tell as yet but will if I come to that bridge. ❤️

January 8, 2024
A myHIVteam Member

Well..... You can't unring a bell. When you are ready and can handle their reaction. HIV isn't a death sentence so there's no rush like it used to be.

January 5, 2024
A myHIVteam Member

I've been thinking about being open about my status but it's hard I know not everyone will like it and the unknown is what's scary.

January 5, 2024
A myHIVteam Member

I told my immediate family right away. I told a few friends.

January 3, 2024

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