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Would You Do It All Over Again?

A myHIVteam Member asked a question 💭
Geneva, IL

Given what to know today? Would you change your behavior or whatever led you to your HIV Infection?

September 27, 2023
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Members reflected deeply on whether they would change the behaviors or circumstances that led to their HIV infection, with responses ranging... Read more

Members reflected deeply on whether they would change the behaviors or circumstances that led to their HIV infection, with responses ranging from those who see their diagnosis as destiny or a life-saving wake-up call to those who carry profound regret over trust betrayed, assault, or decisions made under the influence of drugs and alcohol. Several members shared that HIV transformed their lives for the better, leading to sobriety, spiritual growth, deeper self-awareness, and meaningful relationships, while others described the lasting pain of infection through infidelity, deception, or violence during vulnerable moments. A recurring theme was the complex interplay of acceptance and grief, with many emphasizing that while they cannot change the past, they have found strength, purpose, and community in moving forward without letting regret define them.

A myHIVteam Member

Yes! I started out being bi-sexual. I started out using condoms. Trust & lust got me caught up. I let my guard down. It’s really hurtful when you become vulnerable to you partner and tell them and give them your all, body, mind & soul and they use it against you I ended up losing everything most importantly my health. I really wanted to hurt that guy like he hurt me however that wasn’t the correct way to handle it. I had so much anger. I’m better now although I’m reminded of what I experienced every day when I wake up. The more my health declines I get frustrated. It’s a work in progress staying positive. I have good days & I have bad days.

September 30, 2023
A myHIVteam Member

No.
Behavior is Behavior and had nothing to do with HIV for me.
I am a human and do and have done human things to include behaviors.
I am happy with my past, present and look forward to a thriving future

September 30, 2023
A myHIVteam Member

I had night sweats for years before 2021. That's what made me get a test done then. So I knew for years that I was Poz but it layed dormant for years. I knew my risk of having unprotected sex. But it's my preference. When I got with my husband, i knew he was Poz, but I was Poz friendly. It didn't bother me. So my Diagnosis wasn't a shock too me.

September 29, 2023
A myHIVteam Member

The only thing I would change.
Is the behavior?
HIV actually saved my life.
Because it was a wake up call. I was addicted to sex
I had a lot of fun catching the virus. But I wouldn't change anything it is what it is, and I'm doing much better.
I stop drinking, I stopped sleeping around. Recently, I stopped therapy after 30 years. I'm a deacon the church. I found a man that loves me for me. I was diagnosed in 1992 two, and I'm about to have an anniversary in November. I've had HIV over half my lifetime. I'm very proud to be a member of this group. All of you are warriors in my opinion. Thank you all have a wonderful day 😊.

September 28, 2023
A myHIVteam Member

It was a part of my coming Out. Even though I was 22, I was still a "babe in the woods". By the end of the following year, I was HIV+. If I hadn't come Out, no matter how confusing, I would have been in a worse place. HIV is not the worst thing that can happen, even in 1987.

October 23, 2023

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