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How do you do with sexuality as you and your partner deal with sex as you get older?

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Zephyrhills, FL

My husband and I have been together for 39 years, we both have health issues and with him being 10 years older than me, we are at different places right now. I am thinking of finding an online friend to have online or phone fun with. He says we both have physical needs and together is great, but if health issues outside is great just as we are safe careful, and let each other know. I do know think I could do that and he does not want to, but online makes me feel safe and safer for us as a… read more

July 10, 2023
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Members responded to a question about navigating sexuality and intimacy as couples age and face health challenges, sharing a wide range of... Read more

Members responded to a question about navigating sexuality and intimacy as couples age and face health challenges, sharing a wide range of personal experiences and relationship structures. Several members described trying different approaches, including open relationships, counseling, and using personal toys, with one couple sharing how building trust over time led them to choose monogamy. A recurring theme was the importance of honest communication with your partner and finding what works best for your unique situation without judgment.

A myHIVteam Member

Good morning my friend and thank you for your question. That is something that a lot of couples actually discuss and consider. It is still considered taboo outside of the norm but as gay men we understand it. I too had this discussion with my partner some years ago and needed a professional couple counseling opinion. What she said is,.. if we had met on the grounds of an open relationship or even in an orgy type situation ...it would be a smooth ride along. But since we have been monogamous and committed, opening the gates now may unleash other situations that may be kept best at Bay. We considered this and took her advice. We are monogamous.

July 10, 2023 (edited)
A myHIVteam Member

I would just pay for a service. Anything more than that is attention you should be giving your husband and he would notice.

July 11, 2023
A myHIVteam Member

My boyfriend has terminal liver failure and no testosterone, we have no sex life :( However he is worth lacking that. I'd rather be in a sexless relationship with someone I love who treats me right than have amazing sex with an asshole. My husband was negative when I tested positive and his fear of me and IT fucked up any sex life we were going to have. My boyfriend would love to sleep with me, but he can't :( I would not seek sex outside of our relationship. I'd get more toys for myself if it was an issue.

December 12, 2023
A myHIVteam Member

I no one thing !!! I need a whole bunch with a gal....like 3 weeks 24/7..

July 10, 2023
A myHIVteam Member

Me not yet am still looking for some one to do it with the perfect man

November 26, 2023

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