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How Many Of Us Are With The Same Partner?

How Many Of Us Are With The Same Partner?

my partner and I broke up in the 90's and I haven't had a real partner since then. I long for someone to connect with but nowadays am happy with good friends and no sex.

A myHIVteam Member said:

Gabriel, That's a beautiful response. For most of my younger life, I yearned for LOVE. For some reason, I could never hold on to it until I met my much older lover, Lincoln. Dating guys in my peer group was rarely about anything other than Sex and Drugs ๐Ÿ˜ˆ. In fact, it became a prerequisite: with good drugs came incredibly intense sex. It was addictive in itself and although the hallucination of "LOVE" was ever present as long as there were drugs, the reality was only more ships passing in the night.

I enjoyed reading about your relationship. That sounds ideal. Emotional intimacy can last forever as long as people communicate. I'm happy for you.

Sometimes I think if only I could capture the personality I exhibit on this blog I'd be a better match for someone. I've noticed that I speak more from the heart on this site and since I don't have to be concerned with being interrupted, I can fully express my thoughts. It seems a bit Borderline Personalities, but I sense a greater connection with you. Ernie and when available, Carlos, than I have in real life. I find this realization to be interesting, especially since I've never had this experience before.

When I finally got out of the FASTLANE, I promised myself that I would only seek love, not only sex. That never worked and I've somehow managed to fly this plane solo for too many years.

I hope you're feeling well and can enjoy this Friday. Cheers!๐Ÿค ๐Ÿค•

edited, originally posted 3 months ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

I relate to your question. I have similar circumstances. My partner and I were together for 11 years, and we had made plans for a lifetime. But even after moving to Hawaii in 2000, paradise could not solve problems we both had ignored nor talked about in the five previous years. The break up was very much like an ugly divorce left me with major trust issues. After, I dated quite a bit but avoided any discussions about relationship. I finally did meet someone who lived in LA. Long distance relationship of 13 years. He passed this year. I'm pretty much content with my life, but am not prepared for another relationship, but feel blessed with the friends I have.

posted 3 months ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

Thank you for asking the question. A lot of people don't like to talk about relationships especially if they are hiv-positive because a lot of times a lot of hiv-positive people are single. But having said that I am in a relationship of 12 Years with a man who is negative. We are asexual but we are each other's best friend and confidant. I do remember the days of old when I used to have partners with whom I've had sex with at least 4 to 5 times a day for 8 years but I never found love the way I have now. I had to really decide what I wanted,.. was it love or was it sex?... I know it's not impossible to find both but sometimes in life it's not just meant to be the way you want it to be ....so I decided to go this route. I agree with you, friends are forever so if you find a friend a confidante somebody you really trust and enjoy and the two of you enjoy each other as well there's nothing wrong with that kind of relationship. Love is never wrong. Thank you for the question๐Ÿ˜„

edited, originally posted 3 months ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

My husband and I have been together since 2-6-1999..we married 2-6 -2018. He remains negative however we always used protection until a few years ago when my non detectable status blessing came! Sex is a great experience but in this long term relationship I have been blessed to learn that ..while sex is great.. a walk on the greenway or lunch with our daughter can be as and sometimes more satisfying!

posted 3 months ago
A myHIVteam Member said:

Me and my husband been married almost 8 years now

posted 3 months ago
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