How long did it take to disclose to family and friends if ever because from my research online it seems that most str8 men seem to be the most reluctant group to ever share their status
Take as long as you need to. I've only told a handful of people on an as needed basis. It's difficult to unsay your HIV status so make sure you can trust them with that information or are comfortable with what they do with that information. My father knows, but he's a very persistent old man who will not except unanswered phone calls while a person is hiding and recoving from AIDS. I asked him not to share it with my mother at first, while I adjusted to having HIV, but I've freed him from that. She's his wife. Other than my immediate family no, I don't share it. I'm still in contact and live with my ex. So putting that out there puts his status in question and that's not a bridge I'm forcing him to cross.
I told my parents and my brother. But nobody else idk why I Guess if they ask I'll have to. But im not going to tell everyone.
A month after I would out I told my best friends (both nurses). They love and protect me and assure I’ll be ok. Told my family much later. My daughter doesn’t talk to me (my status and other issues), my sisters are supportive and my mom worries. Her nephew died from AIDS in Thailand in the 90’s. Other than that I feel it’s much easier to talk about it now. I have a large support group here and in my personal life. It helps when I’m down, someone is always around to uplift me.
I told my mom and dad the same day they were very supportive but i did have family members that every time they got mad at me it would get thrown in my face my kids know but they don't like to talk about it which is fine i deal with my HIV on my own i found this site so i read and talk about HIV..
Josh, what I confronted, 36 years ago, was an intolerant society, one which assigned all sorts of fear-based hostility and conjecture upon the very idea of one's lifestyle creating the disease. I was part of that very first wave of illness, back when we were learning by one example after another and most of us, gay or straight, were dropping like flies. It was a very dark period of our social history as a society.
So, I told anyone and everyone who I considered even marginally a part of my healthy life. In 1987, I was prescribed A.Z.T. It was the only FDA approved treatment and it was considered to be highly toxic. I had seen that the drug seriously impaired one's quality of life, so I figured that I would be dead within two years, either from the drug or the disease. I prayed to my Higher Power for guidance and very quickly
realized that I couldn't take care of my health if I was stressed-out over my parents and family finding out the truth. So...I told everyone the complete story just to get it out in the open. Fortunately, my employer was sympathetic and surprisingly, so was my family.
I attribute my longevity, in part, to not having to keep my new reality a secret. Stress and fear were not compounded by shame. I was able to tackle the disease with a fairly clear conscience.
It's important to state that had I known I would survive the treatment and, thus far, the disease, I think I would have been less open about my situation and it's disclosure.
After a few years, people who showed their initial support when I was dying, quickly lost interest once it was clear that I was still Gay.
Trust yourself to carefully consider what/if to tell someone, for your best interests. At this stage of progress, it's very unlikely you will succumb to the ravages of AIDS or even HIV. Life with HIV has become totally doable. I hope you will discover a path that let's you enjoy your life, today. Cheers!🤠
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