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HELP!!relationship Advice Like Stat Pretty Please.

A myHIVteam Member asked a question ๐Ÿ’ญ
Nesquehoning, PA

y'all know i spent time in a behaveriol health unit. I met a man there I instantly connected with. It was weird its like ivw alwaya known him. Lets call Him "W."

We kept in touch after the hospital and he came out as bi. His GF was using him for cash, cheating on him daily. Lied about being pregnant. The cheating lead to him coming to the hospital after a drinking bender.

Today he told me he likes me, I like "W" too. Im not sure what to do. Im moving to Florida this month. He lives inโ€ฆ read more

June 6, 2021
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Members responded to someone torn between pursuing a connection with a man they met in a behavioral health unit and their upcoming move to... Read more

Members responded to someone torn between pursuing a connection with a man they met in a behavioral health unit and their upcoming move to Florida, with the overwhelming consensus being to prioritize their own healing and stick with their relocation plans rather than jumping into a long-distance relationship. Several members shared cautionary experiences, including one who lost eight years to a bisexual man still in another relationship, emphasizing that both individuals need time to address personal challenges and become emotionally available before committing to anything serious. A recurring theme was that while the connection felt special and intense, true compatibility requires time, stability, and shared commitment, and if it's meant to be, distance won't prevent it from working out later when both people are in healthier places.

A myHIVteam Member

Girl I will make this very clear ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ’‹..it does not matter where you met him or Miss W as you call him. The fact of the matter is he's confused. I'm telling you from personal experience because I had a bisexual married man.. and gir..l I lost 8 years of my life๐Ÿคช. It was a roller coaster and only I was to blame because he was still in a relationship and I should have known better. I was not a boy I was a full grown man and I knew better.... So ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ‘...go to Florida ..pack your bags and don't look back. Enjoy sweetheart ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿงก๐Ÿงก๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿค—๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿ’‹

June 7, 2021
A myHIVteam Member

Pack your bags and start your life in the Sunshine state... Get your life in order and if after a while you are still smitten by "W", invite him to move down.. Now, a relationship with a bi could be tricky and you could be second plate and not first choice. ๐Ÿ˜

June 11, 2021
A myHIVteam Member
June 7, 2021
A myHIVteam Member

I would advise you not to jump into that right away you have to take your time with that because it's your heart and you are still healing and you need time.keep in touch with him though he could be the right one but you have to really get to know him.i also think of your safety you just think you know someone and you may not know them at all.but prayers too my friend and good luck also in the chase

June 7, 2021
A myHIVteam Member

Zander Boy @A myHIVteam Member
Wasn't aware of your time spent in a behavioral health unit (mental hospital) since it's not in your story.
Perhaps a story update is needed at this time.
Long distance relations rarely work, if at all.
My advice is to let "W" know your plans and if he is all in then he will make the move as well. Can you both really commit to each other?
If he isn't willing or able to pack up and move, remember that there are other fish in the sea, you are young, and have your whole life ahead of you.
On another note, it is great to see you are engaging more on this platform as compared to before. Good luck with your decision making and especially the relocation. Aloha! John

June 9, 2021

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