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A myHIVteam Member asked a question πŸ’­
Geneva, IL

With the influx of social media platforms around the world including thousands of dating applications, dating today has become a virtual reality πŸ€ͺ. Do you find it easier or more difficult to meet and greet online or..... do you prefer day to day encounters doing normal routine activities?

This seems to be a very hot topic here on my HIV team, ....your comment is greatly appreciated πŸ‘β™₯οΈπŸ€—

May 25, 2021
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Members shared mixed experiences about finding love through dating apps, with some celebrating long-term relationships that began online... Read more

Members shared mixed experiences about finding love through dating apps, with some celebrating long-term relationships that began online (including one couple together for seven and a half years and another married for four years after meeting on a POZ dating site), while others expressed frustration with dishonesty, geographic limitations, and encounters focused more on hookups than genuine connection. Several members described successful strategies including extensive communication before meeting in person, video calls to verify authenticity, being upfront about HIV status from the start, and maintaining patience and openness throughout the process. A recurring theme was that online dating requires intentionality and effort but can work when both people are honest about what they seek, with many emphasizing that love can be found anywhere when approached with authenticity and an open heart.

A myHIVteam Member

I will share my personal experience...ill make it short and sweet I met my current partner online on an app called adam4adam. We spoke for about 6 months until one day I was walking down the street and I recognized his picture. Unbeknownst to me he was not the 240 lb Muscled person he claimed to be. Rather he was 380lbs . When I approached him online about this there was quiet but I asked ..may I meet him We did meet , as I no longer wanted to keep up this charade , and what captured me until this day, kindred my heart was his smile and sense of humor. No person has ever motivated me more than the gentle Spirit and soul behind this tender man. Looks and money swayed me in the past but never have I personally allowed my heart to be totally open to the power of unconditional loyalty and love and for that I am humbled and grateful 🌈🌈🌈β™₯οΈπŸ™πŸ‘
Since we both have a medical condition with him having obesity , high blood pressure and diabetes and myself with AIDS and COPD,... fitness has become a regular routine and he has lost 120 lbs and I have gained 25lb, which we both needed πŸ‘πŸ™β™₯οΈπŸŒˆπŸ€—...
So the lesson behind this story is never judge a book by its cover πŸ’‹β€οΈπŸ‘πŸ™β™₯οΈπŸ’›πŸ§‘πŸ’œπŸ’™πŸ’š

May 25, 2021 (edited)
A myHIVteam Member

My ex-bf was from a dating app. i’ve met a lot of people through the apps. i don’t recommend the STD ones though. Men with HiV there are just warped. I think it can happen anywhere if you go in honestly and transparent. I also am very aware of convos and verbiage. There are red flags that stay true to a womanizer they usually make too many comments on body jump into sexual questions right away and will avoid an intellectual or emotional conversation

May 28, 2021
A myHIVteam Member

I think most gay dating apps are sex driven. Not many want a relationship Sad
I have fond that most guys are bitchy and shallow. SAD
I guess it depends what you are looking for but looking for an LTR is a disappointment

May 25, 2021
A myHIVteam Member

I find it easier to meet in person live. I'm not sure of everyones intentions online but from my experience online is not good. My HIV team has been great; although it's most likely not where I will likely find the love of my life. Thanks for asking the question @A myHIVteam Member. Enjoy your holiday and be safe.

May 31, 2021 (edited)
A myHIVteam Member

I agree with Tony. Love can be found anywhere and I believe love will find me. I'm open to God's greatest blessing of love. Let's see how this story writes itself.

May 30, 2021

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