Yes, I do. So many gay men that know about being undetectable is, still have issues about having a long term relationship with someone HIV+, but will not have a problem with having me fuck the shit out of them for one night without a condom. It seems that one night stands are not complicated to be with someone who's HIV+ ( at least with me). Most guys are not willing to give me the chance of a long term relationship. I still don't understand why to this day. Is there something about my looks that gives them the reason to think that I can't be a faithful partner. Do they feel that communication is impossible to have with me or I will not be willing to work things out with them? I still don't know. What I do know is that I don't worry about it anymore. I take control of what I'm willing to do someone. Since I'm so picky about who I have sex with, most guys are not willing to get together if sex is not on the table. I have noticed that there are guys who want to have phone sex (not my cup of tea) I'm a hands-on type of guy & calling each other all kinds of derogatory names including the (N) word is not my way of a good time.

I love we are having this discussion. What a great question. This gets to the heart of our own reality, but also in our community that wants to create this storyline of unicorns and fairy tales. I love @A myHIVteam Member answer. Unfortunately, someone with a "problem" doesn't fit that storyline. So, such is life you have to make it not a problem. Then, what are you supposed to do? Nope, I believe there are people better than that!

I've been there, dealing with my own fairy tales. I just hope and trust everyone here will feel comfortable enough to figure out their own reality in a way that makes them happy. Keep people in your life that will have your back as crazy as it may look or be. And, hopefully one day it will be someone that wants to spend their life with you as a partner.

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Rickschott: what is a bareback drug, I need to be educated.

I don't seem to find guys to explore more than sex. That's why I'm still single. I don't jump into bed with just anybody.

Your worth more than that. Im at that point where I would like this to be real. Its almost like playing a video game this cyber dating. I cannot commit to a computer or smart phone screen. We need to talk face to face early in our cyber dating rotation. It needs to feel real. Why is it so hard to find someone close enough to you to explore possibilities.