I was never given the chance to decide when he was told since he was at my bedside in the hospital when the Dr told the tale .
Now however it was my partner ( later husband ) that decided that he wanted to be the person who told me " baby you have Aids " .
Now mind you this was after him bringing me home to care for me himself ( which cost him his driving job at Hornady truck lines ).
He decided to wait until I had come far enough thru dementia that I could understand what I was being told .

Tell u the truth I was in the same predicament when it came to my partner honestly I was freakin out..... I kno Krazie right but at first I was hesitated cause we only known each other for 2weeks n now we 7months strong but back on the topic when Disclosure of your Status only u know when to tell the person ex specially u really care bout there feelings too but when I told my lover I was scared at first had dinner cook drinkin red wine washed dishes now it time to tell him but as we watchin tv an commercial do u kno yo partner status n from there I started crying..... he was looking at me if he did somethin but I was like I got something to tell u but I dnt know how u can take it I told him I'm HIV+ he said we get through this together

Well piglet I have " outed " myself so many times over the last 20 years that I have lost count .

I was working in a public setting when my id pcp asked me to be part of a pictorial essay by a grad student working toward her master's in ID .

Not thinking about any ramifications of doing so said yes .

Then came picture time and husband just happened to be home from the road that day so the foto was of us together .

They began displaying the poster size forms of the 20 of us that were selected in the halls of the clinic .
Knowing some of the customers of the restaurant I was working at were also patients of the clinic began to worry about my job .
Did my research on the ada and went in armed with the knowledge that I could not be terminated for having Aids .

I told the general manager who 9f course told the subordinate managers and as the team leader of my section told my second in the chain .

About a week later all of a sudden I was to become the fountain for " a friend of a friend just tested positive " information which suited me just find because those that mattered most actually protected me because they loved working with me .
That lasted 6 years then the 0lace closed .

The biggest thing I did for myself was enter into a local leather contest in 2015 .
One part of the contest was of course a speech for which I was not 0r
Prepared .

As I took the mic from the mc I blurted out " I have Aids but am undectaboe " .

The asshole to elbow crowd got deathly silent so much so you could have heard a hair hit the floor .

Hearing my words echoing back to me thru the speakers gave me the chutzpah to carry on .
What was supposed to be a 90 second speech carried on about 10 minutes .
As I walked off the stage I was back slapped and glad handed that I nearly began to cry because I had gone public with my status .

My words and the ability to stand proud when I " outed " my self publicly seemed to have given others their " own voice " to be able to come out because my id pcp commented about the sudden amount of her patients who no longer feared talking openly about their own status so I told her what I had done and she gave me a big hug for being able to fight back against my own inner fear .

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I told my partner as soon as we had a good talking relationship. I think that it is important to be honest with your partner from the beginning. My partner respected me for being so forthcoming to him. My partner is negative, and have stayed that way for 9 years. (The time that we have been together). I know it may be hard to tell someone you care about your status, but its best to tell them and let them choose whether they want to continue pursuing the relationship.