I pretty much just tell them . Ijust moved to a new small town and haven’t started dating yet . I will probably only date someone with HIV. But I am in no hurry Although I do miss cuddling with someone, my cuddle pillow works and does not snore or toss around !!!!!!
For me even before going out I'd get honest about being poz with potential partner. To me it's simple, he can accept my status, or he cannot.
When I start seeing someone we hang out and get to know each other first. When we do take that next step we have already discussed HIV. MY belief is a person has a moral right to know. Even though I'm not at risk of transmitting the virus because I'm undetectable among other things. If I'm going to make love with someone I dont want any doubt the sex is much better if both parties know.
I just had my first experience with this. I met someone and they asked me out on a date. I told him that this was all new for me, that I have recently become HIV positive and now with an undetectable status and that I would love to go on a date but that I understood that that could be a deal breaker for some people undetectable or not so if he wasn't cool with it I understood and it was okay.
To my surprise he was okay with it. I realize that will not always be the case but it felt good to be upfront and take ownership of my status. It felt like I took some of my power back that I had not realized I had been giving to my HIV.
I'm always open minded and straight-forward so if i go out with the guy and start going overboard i tell him the truth i don't care how he will handle the news as long as am being open.I normally do that but despite all that i have personal respect i do go out with someone who respect himself before anyone.