well....my dad held back some LIFE lessons he had that haunted him into his adult years...as a younger adult myself, I dealt with the same issue he had.... only to become infected under the influence...my point..had he spoken to me about his addictions and been a mentor of sorts....it could have helped me make better decisions. I own my infection ,,,but a little guidance would have been nice, ...there is no shame being POZ...like Cancer we need to embrace our positive status and hold our heads high...that's my opinion only...:)..to add to this.. CONFIDENTIALITY is the law...be careful whom you choose to tell...trust is vital.
Are yall dying? I don't see the point of all this disclosure. If your healthy and undetectable what's point people/family have chronic issues they don't disclose why should this be any different.
My dada best friend died of AIDS in the late '80s. And being from a mostly ignorant deep southern family i found it almost impossible to even admit that i was gay. HOWEVER, i did tell them i had advanced stage AIDS and to my surprise they were really loving and accepting. My partners family, however, cannot know. So living over 500 miles away from my family and only two hours from his can prove to be difficult. Ive expressed to him how in tired of hiding. That for me to fully accept myself i need to be open. And he wont listen. I want to help young people who find themselves in this situation. How can I do that if i have to hide? My opinion is to be open. Your families will love you. NO MATTER WHAT!